When You Have A Teenager, The Fridge Is Always Empty

cannabis-destiny-munchies-600x342If you are a parent, you know that the parenthood is the best things in a world and that it’s a true blessing. But let’s face it, the teenagers can be pretty annoying, especially when it comes to food. Most of the time they’re hungry and they eat everything that they get their hands on. But that’s only if you are lucky, a lot of them are constantly complaining how the food in the fridge is nothing but a garbage.

That only means that you’ll have to go shopping very often unless you want to be yelled at and listen how bad of a parent you are. And when you’re finally home after tiring shopping and you have put all of the groceries in the fridge, you think that you’re done. But not for long, another thing that the teenager are famous for is that they eat very fast. So, after a few hours, you’ll notice again how there’s nothing in the fridge. All that means is that they’ll start to complain once again.

In case that they just can’t empty the whole fridge alone by them self, they’re probably going to call their friends for a back-up. And when they do that, before you realize what happened, your house will be full of the teenagers who will make you go shopping once again. So, if you want to have any food remaining, your black chest freezer will have to be locked.

The worst thing about that is the kind of food they’re eating. The everyday diet of a teenager is based on junk food, which almost doesn’t do anything useful for them. The only thing that they get by eating fast food is a useless fat and later, when things get more serious, it can lead to heart diseases.

When they get overweight, they start to use unhealthy ways of losing weight. Most of them start to skip meals and after some time, they become anorexic. Or in the “best case” scenario, in order to regain their old weight, they start to smoke or vomiting on purpose.

The food isn’t the only problem you’ll have to face as a parent of the teenagers. It might seem that the things will get easier as they’re getting older, but that’s not true at all. When they start going out, you’ll be spending sleepless nights thinking are they safe and when will they come back home.

But, of course, there are also a plenty of times when you’ll be happy that you have kids and when you’ll be as proud of them as one parent can be. In those moments, you’ll realise how everything that you had to deal with is worth it.

Car Rules For Children

Do your children know the rules for the road?

School bus drivers have set rules that the school children must follow for the safety of all who ride the bus. Elementary students are taught these rules during the school day. If a student does not follow these rules, they are told that they may have to have an assigned seat, be suspended from the bus or be expelled permanently from the bus. Parents may train their children with similar rules. Here are some parenting tips:

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  • Sit down with your child and let them know the purpose of riding in a car. “Cars are used to get us safely from our home to where we want to be.” Ask the child these questions:
  • 1. What are some good things about our car?
    2. What are some unsafe or dangers that can occur with a car?
    3. Who is in charge of the car when we get in?
    4. Why do we have to wear seatbelts?
    5. What can happen if you leave your seat while the car is moving?
    6. What can happen if you yell, scream or talk loud in the car?

 

  • Write the expected car behaviors down on paper and post them in the car just as they are posted on the school buses. Again, do this with your child and let the child post the rule someplace in the car where they can be seen.
  • When other children are riding in your car with your child, have your child explain the car rules to them.
  • Develop a car routine. Have your child sit in the same seat (if possible), put on seat belt, lock door, and discuss car rules.
  • Your child can help you with the rules too. Have them remind you to check the mirrors, adjust seat and check the space around the car before you begin to drive. This will help your child and you develop a routine.
  • Pull over and stop the car when your child is not willing to follow the rules. School bus drivers are trained to do this. Your first job as a driver is to keep everyone safe. If you are distracted by poor behavior, pull over and talk to your child while you are not distracted.
  • Parents need to follow the established car rules to set a good example.

Back To School Tips

school photoThe school year is about to begin. Many parents are wondering, “What are the best parenting tips to help my child get off on the right foot while beginning new school year?” Below are some parenting tips from a twenty two year school counseling expert.

1. Whether your child is entering first grade or college, sit down with him, or her, and have a positive discussion on what school is all about. Keep the conversation light and strive to get your child talking. Stress that school is a process. It takes time. Mistakes and failure are going to occur. Share with your child that learning is life-long and if they do not understand something now that it will be learned later.

2. Ask your child what they need to be successful in school. younger children will need more help in this area and you may have to have assistance from your child’s teacher(s) in order to discover the needs of your child. These needs include supplies, emotional support, educational support (tutoring) and other academic needs of concern.

3. school photoBe prepared to stay engaged with your child’s education without owning it. This is you child’s education, not your, and you want to avoid becoming a helicopter parent swooping down and saving them from failure. In fact, it’s important to realize that failure is part of the process.

4. Be supportive of your child’s school, the teachers, support staff and administrators. There have been tens of thousands of teacher lay offs this past year and class sizes are going to be bigger than they have ever been before. Be supportive, realistic and non-threatening. Volunteer, get involved!

5. Be cafeful not to overloead your child; especially with teens!  Too many children are doing too much. Parent and teacher expectation are sometimes set way too high for the child’s physical, social and emotional development. Avoid pressuring your child to participate in too many activities at one time.

The author of this article,  Scott Wardell, has been an educator for the past thirty-two years and has been a middle school counselor in Minnesota for the past twenty-two years.

5 Parenting Tips To Use Before Going To Parent Teacher Conferences

Depending on how your child is performing in school, parent-teacher conferences can be a mystery until you begin the conference.  Below are some parenting tips that you may find helpful before you even step into the classroom and meet with your child’s teacher.

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  1. Have a discussion with your child and ask your child the following questions: a) ”How do you feel you are doing in school?” b) what is your biggest concern about school? c) What is one thing positive and what is one concern that your teacher is going to share with us about your school performance? d) If your friends were hers, what would they say about you while you are at school?
  2. If your school has an online student grading system that you can see before you go to the conference, download the information provided on your child. Review the information. Print it off and bring it with you to the conference.
  3. Ask your child to show you some of his or her assignments before you attent the conference.
  4. Questions to ask your child’s teachers at the conference: a) “How does my child interact with other children?” b) “Is my child doing his best?” c) What do you feel are my child’s greatest strengths and weaknesses?” d) Is my child involved in all the school activities that you would like to see her participate in?”
  5. No matter what happens during the conference, be prepared to end the conference on a positive note. Prepare yourself to be proactive and open to new ideas that the teacher may share. Try to encourage your child to attend the conference.  It’s their conference too!

6 Steps To Reducing Math Anxiety

Remember when your child came running home from school all excited to share his or her new found skills in counting to 100, adding single digits and solving animal word problems?  What happens in a child’s life where one day math is fun and the next is anxiety driven?  Below are some simple, but yet helpful math test anxiety prevention tips that are sure to get you child or student back on a successful math track.

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  1. Acknowledge the student’s anxiety.  It’s important for the parent and math teacher to recognize and acknowledge that that test anxiety is for real.  Sharing words like: ” I know you are feeling anxious or afraid to take the math test, but I will be here to help you do your best,” reduces many children’s concerns.  Kids want to please us.  They also fear failing.  When you acknowledge their fear or anxieties, you are acknowledging them as a person.
  2. Reduce the embarring feelings.  This can be done by avoiding statements like, “You should have know this!”  Statements like, “Test help me to help you.” and “You and I will work together to find the right solutions to solve math problems” will reduce math test anxiety faster than negative remarks.
  3. Use chart, graphs and pictures as often as possible.  Many math anxious student are visual learning.  They often do better with pictures or visual math depictions in finding solutions.
  4. Practice makes pefect!  Just like many things that we do in life; the more we practice the better we get.  Use a variety of methods, teaching tools and strategies to help a child to learn math.  Encourage practice in the car, bus, dinner table and other times when you are together.
  5. Make math fun not work!  teachers and parents who remain calm, confident and model a great attitude when helping a child solve a math problem are creating an environment that is less anxious and/or anxiety-free.  Attitude makes all the difference!

My Child Has No Friends: What Can I Do?

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There are numerous reasons for why children do not have school friends.  Some children are shy. Even around children they are accustom to being with, they may hesitate to comment or participate.  Highly intelligent or children who strive to appear intelligent may also struggle to make friends. Children who are more intelligent than their peers often have a greater grasp of verbal language.  In a similar fashion, children who have a learning disability, especially boys, may also find it difficult to make friends.

Why Children Have A Hard Time Making Friends

  • Some children will often share that they do not have friends, when in reality, they do.  Some children see other children talking with numerous peers leading them to think that they are not as popular, when in fact, they are very popular with one or two “true friends.”

7 Ways To Help My Child Make Friends

  • Be patient.  Realize that social skills take a life time to develop, groom and change for everyone.
  • Set realistic goals with and for your child.  It’s unrealistic for a parent to set a goal of his or her child to have 10 new friends by the end of the school year when the child is shy and not out-going.  Set a goal of “one new, good friend that your child feels comfortable.  Build off of that goal.alone child photo
  • Recognize that some children are very comfortable being alone.  Some kids are so exhausted by the end of a school day that they, just like us adults, want “down time;” peace and quiet.  This is a good thing!.
  • Encourage your child to participate in extra-curricular activities at school, community center, church, park and recreations programs and clubs.  Clubs are great!  Most science museums have programs for children of all ages to “get involved,” while developing social skills.
  • Speak with your child’s teachers, coaches, youth leaders and other adults who come in contact with your child on a daily or weekly basis.  Share with the adult leader your concerns.  Begin to team with that leader.  Listen to their suggestions.  Encourage you child to try some of the leader’s suggestions.
  • Many schools have social development support groups.  Now, don’t get defensive and begin to think “My kid has social skills!  I don’t want my kid in that group.”  That’s not the only purpose of the group.  The purpose of the group is to 1) allow your child a chance to interact with other children like him or her in a safe, controlled environment, 2) allow your child a place to practice what you are encouraging your child practice at home and school, and 3) many school personnel running these groups will tell you that a high percentage of the students who participate in these groups actually go out and succeed in making more friends outside of the group- fairly quickly!
  • Last, but certainly not least, are you ,the parent, being a good role model and making new friends yourself.? Do you invite new people over to your home?  Do you go out and visit with other adults in their home, or join social community activities?  Children often watch and try to do what their parents do.