I Have A Difficult or Challenging Child

Child behavior that becomes difficult or challenging needs to be addressed in a manner that keeps the parent mindful of what is occurring in the child’s life. Was their a death, trauma, change or surprising event that took place? Was, or is their a family change due to a divorce, death or move? Is there any medical condition that is or has taken place with your child or someone close to the child? If your child has some pressing medical condition, see the child medical doctor and share your concerns. Inform your child’s school counselor with information regarding a death, divorce or trauma related incident. The school counselor may provide you with information, names and referral… Continue Reading

Building Self Esteem In Your Child

Self-esteem is just that… SELF esteem! Self refers to the person who owns or possesses his or her own esteem. Is it possible to build someone else’s esteem? Parents, educators and child psychology and behavioral specialist have all pondered that question. Here are some self-esteem factors for parents to consider.

Signs That Your Child Has Poor Self-Esteem

  • Your child gives up easily

Enforcing Rules and Setting Limits

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Do Children Need Limits?

It’s important for parents to enforce rules and set limits for their children. Youth surveys indicate that children feel more secure when parents set limits. Consider the following when enforcing rules and setting limits:

Consequences should be meaningful, a learning opportunity and appropriate for the child’s age, situation and child’s reasoning ability.

Don’t make threats or set a consequence that you can’t apply.

Try to let your child know in advance what the consequences will be for breaking a set rule.


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Discipline Guidelines and Parent Child Relationships

All parents often search for some helpful hints to improve their relationship with their child before, during and after a discipline issue arises. ScottCounseling established some helpful parenting guidelines that most parents can agree upon. Parenting and child development specialist recommend that parents meet often to discuss expectations, values and family guidelines with their child and how missed expectations will be handled . Here are some helpful suggestions that often lead to successful outcomes.

    Try to set a side time on a regular basis to do something fun with your child. Allow your child to be in on the planning. Developing a good relationship with a child before a discipline issue arises will make solving the problem with the child easier. Never give an

Unplugging Power Struggles

Larry loves his child and only wants what’s best for her. But he finds himself in many power struggles not because he’s overly controlling or malicious, but because he’s inexperienced. This first-time parent doesn’t know how to go about guiding and influencing his child positively, so out of desperation he resorts to power plays which he can’t win.

Power struggles are common growing pains in parent-child relationships. When they rage out of control, however, they can destroy the relationship. Do all you can to resolve them peacefully, even if it means backing off temporarily. Trust that if you let go, your children will come around to your way of thinking or behaving. Miraculously, they almost always do. That’s the paradox of power struggles!

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Ten Keys to Successful Parenting

International Network For Children and Families has successfully provided many concerned parents with outstanding, thought provoking parenting tips in the area of childhood discipline, child development, child consequences and responsibility training techniques that gets positive results. Parenting is not about becoming your child’s friend, but your child’s educator and life-long guide. It is important that we discipline in a way that teaches responsibility by motivating our children internally, to build their self-esteem and make them feel loved. If our children are disciplined in this respect, they will not have a need to turn to gangs, drugs, or sex to feel powerful or belong.

The following ten keys will help parents use methods that have been proven to provide children with a sense of well-being and security.

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Nine Things To Do Instead of Spanking

There has been much controversy over the question of whether spanking a child is an acceptable and appropriate parenting discipline technique. The editors of ScottCounseling encourages parents to consider this article as one positive point view that may provide some alternative solutions to spanking your child.

 

Author, Kathryn Kvols, claims “research confirms what many parents instinctively feel when they don’t like to spank their child, but they don’t know what else to do. The latest research from Dr. Murray Strauss at the Family Research Laboratory affirms that spanking teaches children to use acts of aggression and violence to solve their problems. It only teaches and perpetuates more violence, the very thing our society is so concerned about. This research further shows… Continue Reading