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Comment on 1st Graders Can Be Bullies Too: K-12 Bullying by Scott

Scott — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 19:46:41 +0000

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Comment on Best Back To School Steps For Parents to Take by Scott

Scott — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 16:49:07 +0000

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Comment on How to Help My Child Stop Cutting by jay

jay — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 18:45:30 +0000

I agree with you VA. My daughter has been self injuring, cutting, for almost a year. At first we took away everything that she could use to hurt herself and she still found other ways. Now I don’t bother to search her room anymore and I find she is doing it less. Maybe your right, it could be a security blanket or actually maybe she feels that she is in control. She is now in a program and we are hoping that it will help. What I don;’t understand is they why. I never belittle her because i can’t imagine what could hurt so much inside that she would want to hurt herself. I am just so sad.

Comment on Demanding Child by Lulu

Lulu — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 20:05:43 +0000

Hi …I need serious help with my six year old kid… I don’t know where to start but I can tell you that he’s very demanding and and his demand drags on for an hour if he has the energy,,, i sometimes wish I can turn back time and have him as a baby again so I can do things different… I know my limits on what to give in to and what not to give in to but his grandmothers never say no to anything he wants… So if I say no to anything he goes straight to them and he gets his way so he has two messages in his head mom and dads word ain’t so strong cuz grandmas breaks their word in n time… I need help almost everything I tell him to do he does the opposite … We have day battles over food, over sharing, over saying bad words, over raising his voice and the let goes on ….

Comment on Why Smart Kids Get Bullied by sophie

sophie — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 10:53:34 +0000

i also got bullied for 4 years and i struggled but thanks to a counselor i have gotto=en most of my life back on track but i still have other problems!
can i ask a question if everyone gets bullied does that mean that everyone is a bully??

Comment on Will My Ex Get Back With Me? Learn If Your Ex Is Still Interested In You by Jasmin

Jasmin — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 07:14:09 +0000

My ex has mostly been very distant with me. And, would prefer if I didn’t contact him. I suppose, they’re not interested. Do I still have a chance?

Comment on How to Deal with Emotional Abuse by Las

Las — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 00:23:35 +0000

If we would have more “Tara” around the World would be better place…

Comment on Dating After Divorce: How Does it Affect Children? by Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 16:24:45 +0000

I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old I have been divorced about a year and started dating a friend I have had for several years, we have been dating for over 6 months and he has met my kids. The kids love him and he respects my children and my time with my children. He respects that he is not “daddy” they have a father and he accepts that fully. The situation has been going great for the most part he only sees them maybe 4 times a month. My family on the other hand is not very happy about him being around my kids. they think its too soon and that the kids have been through enough with the divorce and everything. Which I agree the kids of course went through more than either me or my ex husband combined. They lost the unity of their parents and I fully understand that they have been through a lot. My boyfriend and I are not romantic infront of the kids he basically co-exists as a friend around for a little bit here and there to play and spend some time with us. He takes no responsibility for my kids at all, thats what Im there for as their mother. Am I in the wrong to have him around my children this soon??? We both definitely feel a connection and commitment for the long haul and a future together. I have my kids about 75% of the time and my children always come first. Im confused on who is right in this situation if I keep things light and mainly platonic around the kids being so young still. Your advice would be great either way! Thank you

Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 13:24:03 +0000

Hello,
Congratulations on throwing out/giving away your knives and razors, and for posting this! I think thats the first step to stopping! Now. the next step is telling somoene. The most likely reason your Dad hasnt replied to your letter is because he is worried for you, and doesnt know how to approach the situation. However, a proffensial physcologist or counsellor, even your local doctor, will help you stop feeling the urge to cut!

The longest I’ve gone without cutting is one month and five days. At first this was extremely hard, because over time I had relied on pain to stop me hurting. I used the http://au.reachout.com/ (I’m from australia) website, and to substitute cutting I found that holding ice against my thigh for about 5 minutes would burn a red mark which I liked, but then it would fade overnight so I could wear a bikini to the beach the next day. Until today I’ve had this constant urge to cut myself, even in classes i cant hold scissors because I’m scared I will take them to the toilets..
But, as well as ice i’ve realised that if I put a lackey band on my wrist and flick it every time i feel an urge to cut, my urges slowly went away.. to near nothing!
I’ve decided to tell my year co-ordinator and my school counsellor(whom I’ve seen a few times before, but never mentioned self harming.) and I think that telling ANYONE will help you, so try telling a trusted friend that you want to stop but you need their help. Or. you could use online chat websites to talk anonymously to people.

Hope this ESSAY has helped haha xo

Comment on How to Make Friends If You’re Shy by abby

abby — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 17:03:06 +0000

i am always shy at school and iam nearly 9 so i never get any friends so what shall i do ?

Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by TKM

TKM — Sat, 28 May 2011 01:01:23 +0000

You said you’ve been cutting for 10 years and you’re 14. My daughter is 4 years old and has been scratching herself to bleed, pulling her scabs, pulling her hair and pinching her nipples. She also has an unhealthy eating problem. She does feel bad when she hurts herself, but she likes it. We are getting her help now, but there isn’t much info out there on children this young. Can you give me some insight?

PS – My daughter was adopted internationally at 11 months old. In the last year she has started to display these issues..today is the first day that she showed me she scratched herself to bleed. I am devastated..

Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by someone who cares

someone who cares — Wed, 25 May 2011 14:47:38 +0000

dont worry, one day you’ll be able to make that decision by yourself. i know, ive been there

Comment on Children and Guns: Accidental Gun Deaths Among Children by chris

chris — Tue, 24 May 2011 01:33:41 +0000

A close family friend lost their 2 year old child this past
Weekend as a result of this child getting a hold of her mommy’s pink 38 special and pulled the trigger, the gun discharged and hit the child in the face.Such tragedies are completely unfathomable and avoidable. I pray that another family doesn’t have to suffer the loss of a child, or the pain,
Regret and remorse this family feels. Please look at safety precautions as a necessary practice rather than an after thought.
I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone! I pray this family pulls through this!

Comment on How to Prevent Fighting In Your Marriage From Ruining Your Relationship by Richa Kumar

Richa Kumar — Mon, 23 May 2011 07:59:04 +0000

Well written article.. We can’t think of any relationship in which fights don’t take place. Fights take place when two people do not agree on a common decision, thought, action or choice of words of their partner. Remember by setting a few rules of fighting, you are deciding the dos and don’ts of fights.

Comment on Is My Child Becoming A Serial Killer? by Caroline

Caroline — Mon, 16 May 2011 02:25:08 +0000

Just because you have 11 of these signs doesn’t mean you’re going to end up a serial killer. These aren’t solid facts, just common traits. Most people with the type of background you described don’t end up serial killers. And, you said you brought weapons to school to protect yourself, you didn’t say you brought it to harm people. A future serial killer would most likely bring weapons to school to cause fear or to hurt someone. You’re bringing it to school because you’ve had a rough past and you want to be able to protect yourself. There’s a big difference between wanting to hurt people and wanting to keep yourself safe! A lot of people your age like fire–I remember that I liked playing with lighters and matches at your age and I ended up fine! You mainly sound like you’re depressed due to your upbringing. From what you said, it doesn’t seem like you’re in danger of seriously harming or killing anyone. It would be a good idea, though, for you to talk to someone about your depression. I would also recommend that you ask your school counselor to help you find a professional to talk too about your depression. You don’t seem like you’re in any danger of seriously harming anyone. What happened in your past doesn’t have to control your present or future. I believe in you, and God believes in you. I’ll be praying.

Comment on My Child Hates School: What Parents Can Do? by Oma

Oma — Mon, 09 May 2011 00:16:04 +0000

My daughter in 5th grade has the same problem. Please answer Tammy’s question.

Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Tyla

Tyla — Sat, 07 May 2011 12:40:16 +0000

Ayla

thanx for your help i told her she was sad and crying but it turns out that she cuts too

Comment on Dangers on MySpace & Facebook by Eliza

Eliza — Sat, 07 May 2011 07:25:38 +0000

Does anyone find this a little scary?
I’m not sure about you, but I think that Facebook is the real danger now, not MySpace I have been doing some research about it and there is soooooo much bad stuff about it. It can cause depression, there are predators hiding and it can be harmful to the development of children’s brains. Now that Facebook can be accessed
practically everywhere I think that online danger for
unprotected people is growing. Now there is just more room for people to go crazy with love,hate or paranoia for this modern tool.
Ahhhhhhhhhhh….. Scary huh?

Comment on How to Help My Child Stop Cutting by VA

VA — Sat, 07 May 2011 00:31:20 +0000

I don’t know that I agree about taking away self-injury implements. I suspect that someone would simply use a different way to hurt themself. I am now 755 days free of self-injury, and I know when I was first trying to stop that when I focused on not doing the things I had always done to hurt myself that I began to come up with new ways to hurt to replace them until I became more aware–some of these ways may have been more risky than the original, which is why I think that removing self-injury implements may not be such a good idea. The items may also be a sort of security blanket, and without the sense of control of those being nearby the urge to hurt may come more often and stronger. Sorry to disagree, but wanted to share my thoughts.

Comment on Is My Child Becoming A Serial Killer? by mike jones

mike jones — Fri, 06 May 2011 06:10:39 +0000

I am a Male who comes from a criminal family and my dad was arrest when I was 9. My dad was very abusive. However I have learned that when my mother was off at work I started to do illegal things as drugs and causing problems to others. However when I turned 14 I was contacted by the sheriff officers for breaking the law. And the officer told me to join the sheriff explorer program, which has changed my life alot. Now I am a respectful young adult how now looks at ways to better my self and to help others. My point is that this web site only highlights negative things that a parent should have picked up and do something about it. I mean parents should focus more on how to better their kids and to see others in need of help and offer assistance. When parents see these signs, this shows that parents are not paying enough attention to their children. which is the main cause of the reason why these people go out and kill people. they just were not huge enough as a child. Hope fully parnets pay more attention.