Comments for Scott Counseling http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress Teen Help, Teen Defiance, Troubled Teen, Teen Parenting, eCounseling Services Tue, 05 Jan 2010 04:13:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on School Anxiety and School Phobia by Dawn Greenman http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/school-anxiety-and-school-phobia/2008/03/04/#comment-3531 Dawn Greenman Tue, 05 Jan 2010 04:13:09 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/school-anxiety-and-school-phobia/2008/03/04/#comment-3531 My child stopped having anxiety at the end of the school year (after having it most of the year) and it did not come back the following year. We did take him off of all medications and that seemed to help a great deal but I don't know if it was just the passage of time or no longer being on medications for ADHD and anxiety. My child stopped having anxiety at the end of the school year (after having it most of the year) and it did not come back the following year. We did take him off of all medications and that seemed to help a great deal but I don’t know if it was just the passage of time or no longer being on medications for ADHD and anxiety.

]]> Comment on Anxious Child: Helping Your Child To Manage Anxiety & Fears by Scott http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/anxious-child-helping-your-child-to-manage-anxiety-fears/2008/04/21/#comment-3277 Scott Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:32:52 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/anxious-child-helping-your-child-to-manage-anxiety-fears/2008/04/21/#comment-3277 These two parents received help from "Ask A Counselor" listed under Online Parent Counselor in the feature box at the top of this Website. You can too! These two parents received help from “Ask A Counselor” listed under Online Parent Counselor in the feature box at the top of this Website. You can too!

]]> Comment on Anxious Child: Helping Your Child To Manage Anxiety & Fears by michelle http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/anxious-child-helping-your-child-to-manage-anxiety-fears/2008/04/21/#comment-3276 michelle Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:15:32 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/anxious-child-helping-your-child-to-manage-anxiety-fears/2008/04/21/#comment-3276 my daughter is 13. She is always nervous.she has panic attacks in the beginning of the school year that she wont be able to keep up with the work. she is a nervous wreck. she also cannot tolerate noise well. she feels my 10 year old son breathes too loud and she cant be in the same room as him. When people whisper she sticks her fingers in her ears to block out the noise. Do you have any suggestions as to what I can do with her to relax her? my daughter is 13. She is always nervous.she has panic attacks in the beginning of the school year that she wont be able to keep up with the work. she is a nervous wreck. she also cannot tolerate noise well. she feels my 10 year old son breathes too loud and she cant be in the same room as him. When people whisper she sticks her fingers in her ears to block out the noise. Do you have any suggestions as to what I can do with her to relax her?

]]> Comment on Sitemap by Meghan http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/sitemap/#comment-3264 Meghan Fri, 27 Nov 2009 22:01:31 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?page_id=460#comment-3264 Hi Scott. I am currently working on a project for YouTube. It's a video about my own personal struggle with self injury and I would like to include your statistics in this video. Of course the credit for the statistics would go to you, as well as a link to your site. I'm just writing to ask you for your permission to use said information. Thank you for all that you do. You're helping more than you know. Hi Scott. I am currently working on a project for YouTube. It’s a video about my own personal struggle with self injury and I would like to include your statistics in this video. Of course the credit for the statistics would go to you, as well as a link to your site. I’m just writing to ask you for your permission to use said information. Thank you for all that you do. You’re helping more than you know.

]]> Comment on School Anxiety and School Phobia by Joyce http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/school-anxiety-and-school-phobia/2008/03/04/#comment-3258 Joyce Wed, 25 Nov 2009 03:54:34 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/school-anxiety-and-school-phobia/2008/03/04/#comment-3258 My child is 16 and every day the school calls me at the same time. He is throwing up and having an anxiety attack. I took him to the doctors, phyciatrist and ending up calling him lazy....only to find out through his friends that he is constantly being harrassed by a jock at school. He is practicing self restaint and not fighting but internalizing everything. I feel horrible.. How did I miss the signs. The school has threatened to sue me for him missing class...well I got news for them, they are in for a fight....I am going to sue them for all the mental anguish this child has suffered if they dont put a stop to this right now! If your child acts totally different at school thatn he/she does at home...look deeply into it....I wish i had earlier! My child is 16 and every day the school calls me at the same time. He is throwing up and having an anxiety attack. I took him to the doctors, phyciatrist and ending up calling him lazy….only to find out through his friends that he is constantly being harrassed by a jock at school. He is practicing self restaint and not fighting but internalizing everything. I feel horrible.. How did I miss the signs. The school has threatened to sue me for him missing class…well I got news for them, they are in for a fight….I am going to sue them for all the mental anguish this child has suffered if they dont put a stop to this right now! If your child acts totally different at school thatn he/she does at home…look deeply into it….I wish i had earlier!

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Shintelle http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3251 Shintelle Mon, 23 Nov 2009 12:46:57 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3251 I'm doing an article on this subject for my schools newspaper, your info was useful =] I’m doing an article on this subject for my schools newspaper, your info was useful =]

]]> Comment on How Parents Enable Drug Use by Scott http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/how-parents-enable-drug-use/2009/09/29/#comment-3243 Scott Sat, 21 Nov 2009 15:08:15 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=3054#comment-3243 Mark's comments above brings up two great concerns shared by many: 1) The school counselor's role, and 2) Child Protection Services. The school counselor's role: Professional school counselors provide culturally competent services to students, parents/guardians, school staff and the community in the following areas: • School Guidance Curriculum – This curriculum consists of structured lessons designed to help students achieve the desired competencies and to provide all students with the knowledge and skills appropriate for their developmental level. The school guidance curriculum is delivered throughout the school's overall curriculum and is systematically presented by professional school counselors in collaboration with other professional educators in K-12 classroom and group activities. • Individual Student Planning – Professional school counselors coordinate ongoing systemic activities designed to help students establish personal goals and develop future plans. • Responsive Services – Responsive services consist of prevention and/or intervention activities to meet students’ immediate and future needs. Parents and other community members can contact the school counselor anonymously or go on the school counseling website to receive resources in their local community to help their child who is using or addicted to drugs. The Child Protection Myth Many people believe that when child protection is contacted that they show up with the police, bang down the door and remove the child. On the contrary. Only a very small percentage of children are removed from the home...and, if they are, in most cases, it's temporary. The majority of calls to child protection do not end in an investigation, but options for help or referral to another resource. To see what Child Protection Services is all about, Google "your county" then Child Protection Services." or read this: Child protection is used to describe a set of usually government-run services designed to protect children and young people who are 18 or under and encourage family stability. These typically include investigation of alleged child abuse, child protective services, foster care, adoption services, and services ****aimed at supporting at-risk families so they can remain intact. Most children who come to the attention of the child welfare system do so because of any of the following situations, which are often collectively termed child abuse: * Neglect including the failure to take adequate measures to safeguard a child from harm and/or gross negligence in providing for a child's basic needs * Emotional abuse * Child sexual abuse * Physical abuse * Psychological abuse Again...Child Protection does not exist to "investigate why the child is using drugs," but to provide help options if necessary. Great discussion! Your thoughts??? Mark’s comments above brings up two great concerns shared by many:

1) The school counselor’s role, and
2) Child Protection Services.

The school counselor’s role:

Professional school counselors provide culturally competent services to students, parents/guardians, school staff and the community in the following areas:

• School Guidance Curriculum – This curriculum consists of structured lessons designed to help students achieve the desired competencies and to provide all students with the knowledge and skills appropriate for their developmental level. The school guidance curriculum is delivered throughout the school’s overall curriculum and is systematically presented by professional school counselors in collaboration with other professional educators in K-12 classroom and group activities.

• Individual Student Planning – Professional school counselors coordinate ongoing systemic activities designed to help students establish personal goals and develop future plans.

• Responsive Services – Responsive services consist of prevention and/or intervention activities to meet students’ immediate and future needs.

Parents and other community members can contact the school counselor anonymously or go on the school counseling website to receive resources in their local community to help their child who is using or addicted to drugs.

The Child Protection Myth

Many people believe that when child protection is contacted that they show up with the police, bang down the door and remove the child. On the contrary. Only a very small percentage of children are removed from the home…and, if they are, in most cases, it’s temporary. The majority of calls to child protection do not end in an investigation, but options for help or referral to another resource.

To see what Child Protection Services is all about, Google “your county” then Child Protection Services.” or read this:

Child protection is used to describe a set of usually government-run services designed to protect children and young people who are 18 or under and encourage family stability. These typically include investigation of alleged child abuse, child protective services, foster care, adoption services, and services ****aimed at supporting at-risk families so they can remain intact.

Most children who come to the attention of the child welfare system do so because of any of the following situations, which are often collectively termed child abuse:

* Neglect including the failure to take adequate measures to safeguard a child from harm and/or gross negligence in providing for a child’s basic needs
* Emotional abuse
* Child sexual abuse
* Physical abuse
* Psychological abuse

Again…Child Protection does not exist to “investigate why the child is using drugs,” but to provide help options if necessary.

Great discussion! Your thoughts???

]]> Comment on How Parents Enable Drug Use by mark http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/how-parents-enable-drug-use/2009/09/29/#comment-3241 mark Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:35:18 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=3054#comment-3241 This is probably the worst possible thing you can do. Why? The school is obligated to protect the welfare of the child and could be obligated to notify child protective services to investigate why the child is using drugs. Is it because of a neglectful mother.The school is under no obligation to protect privicy on the contrary if they do nothing they are liable themselves if the child od's and dies. This is probably the worst possible thing you can do. Why? The school is obligated to protect the welfare of the child and could be obligated to notify child protective services to investigate why the child is using drugs. Is it because of a neglectful mother.The school is under no obligation to protect privicy on the contrary if they do nothing they are liable themselves if the child od’s and dies.

]]> Comment on Children and Guns: Accidental Gun Deaths Among Children by Caleb http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/children-and-guns-accidental-gun-deaths-among-children/2008/04/27/#comment-3232 Caleb Wed, 18 Nov 2009 05:49:19 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/children-and-guns-accidental-gun-deaths-among-children/2008/04/27/#comment-3232 While I think guns should remain legal, I disagree with you on one thing. The real reason why kids die around guns is not because they weren't taught about them, it was because the children had them. I don't care if your seven year is educated about guns, he should not under any circumstances have access to them. While I think guns should remain legal, I disagree with you on one thing. The real reason why kids die around guns is not because they weren’t taught about them, it was because the children had them. I don’t care if your seven year is educated about guns, he should not under any circumstances have access to them.

]]> Comment on How Parents Enable Drug Use by Scott http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/how-parents-enable-drug-use/2009/09/29/#comment-3231 Scott Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:34:46 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=3054#comment-3231 Hi Mike: Encourage your friend to contact her son's school counselor. The counselor can provide out of school counseling options. Her call can be anonymous. Scott ScottCounseling.com Hi Mike:

Encourage your friend to contact her son’s school counselor. The counselor can provide out of school counseling options. Her call can be anonymous.

Scott
ScottCounseling.com

]]> Comment on How Parents Enable Drug Use by mike brooks http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/how-parents-enable-drug-use/2009/09/29/#comment-3230 mike brooks Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:12:23 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=3054#comment-3230 I have a friend that 16 yr old son is smoking pot and wants to know what he can do to send him somewhere to get help.His mother and father are divorced and she is going through another divorce and is living with grandparents which are really jerks and verbally abusive to him.What counseling can he go to? I have a friend that 16 yr old son is smoking pot and wants to know what he can do to send him somewhere to get help.His mother and father are divorced and she is going through another divorce and is living with grandparents which are really jerks and verbally abusive to him.What counseling can he go to?

]]> Comment on Energy Drinks: Safe or Not Safe? by Hi http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/energy-drinks-safe-or-not-safe/2009/01/06/#comment-3226 Hi Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:29:03 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1400#comment-3226 I LOVE these energy drinks, my only vice. I LOVE these energy drinks, my only vice.

]]> Comment on Sibling Rivalry: Why Do Brothers and Sisters Fight? by Cody http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/sibling-rivalry-why-do-brothers-and-sisters-fight/2008/05/27/#comment-3225 Cody Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:54:44 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=372#comment-3225 This was the greatest thing i have ever read. I am a teenager myself and have a younger sister, and i want my peace and independence. I am usually a pretty laid back quiet person, and my sister is the exact opposite; She is loud and loves attention. So when i want it quiet and she is being obnoxious i have these anxiety attacks and end up agressivly screaming at her, and i always feel bad after i do it because i know that i have no right to yell at her, but i feel that i was raised that way. My parrents are divorced right now, and when they were married they would fight all the time. It was non stop arguing in my families household. My dad would become very anrgy very easily, and would end up being very agressive and would scream and yell at me for long periods of time about the most rediculous things. I remember one time he grounded me for not putting my gloves on before i walked out the door, or not getting up fast enough for him, or for spitting outside. He would pick me up while he was screaming at me, take me upstairs, set me on my parrents bed, and would shout at me for about and hour at a time. I know that he was treated like that as a child, but I don't want to end up that way. I feel like I am carrying a bad example down the family even further, and would like some advise on how I can control my anger because now some my close friends have noticed it and I want to make it better. Another reason I may feel like this is that I am insecure about myself. I am a senior in high school now and I am only 115 lbs. I come from a family of short skinny people, and they are all hard asses, and i dont know if they all feel the same way i do. But too many people feel that they should take their agression out on me because they feel that i am a defensless little bitch, and i guess thats another reason why i am so pissed off all the time. I joined the wrestling team back in 8th grade to try and beef up a little bit, and it has helped some, but I just need some other advise on how i can control my anger so i dont resolve my problems in such a negative way like every one else in my family. This was the greatest thing i have ever read. I am a teenager myself and have a younger sister, and i want my peace and independence. I am usually a pretty laid back quiet person, and my sister is the exact opposite; She is loud and loves attention. So when i want it quiet and she is being obnoxious i have these anxiety attacks and end up agressivly screaming at her, and i always feel bad after i do it because i know that i have no right to yell at her, but i feel that i was raised that way. My parrents are divorced right now, and when they were married they would fight all the time. It was non stop arguing in my families household. My dad would become very anrgy very easily, and would end up being very agressive and would scream and yell at me for long periods of time about the most rediculous things. I remember one time he grounded me for not putting my gloves on before i walked out the door, or not getting up fast enough for him, or for spitting outside. He would pick me up while he was screaming at me, take me upstairs, set me on my parrents bed, and would shout at me for about and hour at a time. I know that he was treated like that as a child, but I don’t want to end up that way. I feel like I am carrying a bad example down the family even further, and would like some advise on how I can control my anger because now some my close friends have noticed it and I want to make it better. Another reason I may feel like this is that I am insecure about myself. I am a senior in high school now and I am only 115 lbs. I come from a family of short skinny people, and they are all hard asses, and i dont know if they all feel the same way i do. But too many people feel that they should take their agression out on me because they feel that i am a defensless little bitch, and i guess thats another reason why i am so pissed off all the time. I joined the wrestling team back in 8th grade to try and beef up a little bit, and it has helped some, but I just need some other advise on how i can control my anger so i dont resolve my problems in such a negative way like every one else in my family.

]]> Comment on My Child Has No Friends: What Can I Do? by Ms Kinzi http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/my-child-has-no-friends-what-can-i-do/2009/01/09/#comment-3223 Ms Kinzi Thu, 12 Nov 2009 10:39:17 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1452#comment-3223 My child is in the 4th grade and tells me she hasn't got any friends, the girls are mean to her and the boys tell her she can't play football with them. she is super friendly and helpfull. She feels very lonly and sad. She is also an olny child. help me plz.......... I have tried all your suggestions and it hasn't helped. She doesn't want me to talk to the teachers incase the kids find out. Help me plz, I am sad for her and don't know what to do. My child is in the 4th grade and tells me she hasn’t got any friends, the girls are mean to her and the boys tell her she can’t play football with them. she is super friendly and helpfull. She feels very lonly and sad. She is also an olny child. help me plz……….

I have tried all your suggestions and it hasn’t helped. She doesn’t want me to talk to the teachers incase the kids find out.

Help me plz, I am sad for her and don’t know what to do.

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Jax http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3217 Jax Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:46:32 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3217 I've cut for four years and I've been "clean" for 2months. It's something that never leaves you and never lets you go. You feel the temptation to do it the rest of you're life, and I know that. I'll go for months, up to 10 once, without a single cut, and then it's like that Malboro at midnight that you just HAVE to have, and it sneaks right back in. I never went to a hospital for this, I had a life that I didn't want to ruin. I didn't want to hurt the people that loved me. I read most of the comments and that's something I never saw mentioned. Cutting isn't just about teenage angst and all that, it's about dealing with a situation that you find no other way to deal with...is it healthy? no. is it safe? No. Is it managable? Yes, one step at a time. Social support is useful, you need to know that people love you and care what happens to you. People say to love another, you have to love yourself first. Well, that's a lie. I don't love me, I'm usually pretty at odds with myself, but I love other people. I love a lot of people and I know that what i do to myself matters to them, and i don't want to hurt them, and sometimes....just sometimes, that's what it takes. I’ve cut for four years and I’ve been “clean” for 2months. It’s something that never leaves you and never lets you go. You feel the temptation to do it the rest of you’re life, and I know that. I’ll go for months, up to 10 once, without a single cut, and then it’s like that Malboro at midnight that you just HAVE to have, and it sneaks right back in. I never went to a hospital for this, I had a life that I didn’t want to ruin. I didn’t want to hurt the people that loved me. I read most of the comments and that’s something I never saw mentioned. Cutting isn’t just about teenage angst and all that, it’s about dealing with a situation that you find no other way to deal with…is it healthy? no. is it safe? No. Is it managable? Yes, one step at a time. Social support is useful, you need to know that people love you and care what happens to you. People say to love another, you have to love yourself first. Well, that’s a lie. I don’t love me, I’m usually pretty at odds with myself, but I love other people. I love a lot of people and I know that what i do to myself matters to them, and i don’t want to hurt them, and sometimes….just sometimes, that’s what it takes.

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Aaron http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3215 Aaron Tue, 27 Oct 2009 23:48:16 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3215 Hey Natalie, have you talked to anybody about this before now? if not and you'd like some help please contact me at aaron@revivethecity.org and I will do my best to get you the best help I can. Hey Natalie, have you talked to anybody about this before now? if not and you’d like some help please contact me at aaron@revivethecity.org and I will do my best to get you the best help I can.

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by StarCut19 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3214 StarCut19 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 23:20:17 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3214 Ok so your daughter hung out with "emo" kids. But the "emo" kids didnt make her cut herself. Don't blame them for her problems. Yes they may have given her the idea. But in the end SHE made the decision. Ok so your daughter hung out with “emo” kids. But the “emo” kids didnt make her cut herself. Don’t blame them for her problems. Yes they may have given her the idea. But in the end SHE made the decision.

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by Dadof exemo http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3211 Dadof exemo Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:05:12 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3211 My daughter used to cut herself. She says that she started after hanging around with some "emo" kids. Apparently, these kids told her that cutting was part of emo. They really did a number on my daughter. She is recovering, but people would be wise to avoid these emo kids. Take a look at emodanger.co.cc for more information. My daughter used to cut herself. She says that she started after hanging around with some “emo” kids. Apparently, these kids told her that cutting was part of emo. They really did a number on my daughter. She is recovering, but people would be wise to avoid these emo kids. Take a look at emodanger.co.cc for more information.

]]> Comment on Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics by sari http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/cutting-self-injury-facts-statistics/2009/02/06/#comment-3210 sari Sun, 25 Oct 2009 14:49:16 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1792#comment-3210 wow! Lillian, you just described my life situation in detail almost to the exact last year! stuff got a lot worse though and long story short after a suicide attempt i ended up in psychiatric hospital. Please get help. if your like me, you dont want to because, like you said, you dont want to be a complainer since in other peoples eyes your life is fine. no real abuse. but you ARE HURTING. you probably have depression problems like me. and you cant control that! its a severe medical condition! if you had diabetes you wouldnt deny your self insulin would you? so dont deny yourself the help you need whether its SSRIs, counseling or whatever the docs tell you. My mom did not understand depression and niether does your mom. its not something you can snap out of just like that. while i was in treatment we had family therapy sessions bi-weekly. My mom had a chance to learn about my condition, and now im home and me and her have aa much better relationship. she understands that i have a condition, and takes me to a therapist every week. she talks to me and my mom for a few minutes and then just me. As, for self mutilation, im still trying to get over that. lifes sucks but there are things you can do. Talk to your school psychologist or your school counsilor. they're more educated in this field than your mom is. Hope i helped. and remember your not the only one. wow! Lillian, you just described my life situation in detail almost to the exact last year! stuff got a lot worse though and long story short after a suicide attempt i ended up in psychiatric hospital. Please get help. if your like me, you dont want to because, like you said, you dont want to be a complainer since in other peoples eyes your life is fine. no real abuse. but you ARE HURTING. you probably have depression problems like me. and you cant control that! its a severe medical condition! if you had diabetes you wouldnt deny your self insulin would you? so dont deny yourself the help you need whether its SSRIs, counseling or whatever the docs tell you. My mom did not understand depression and niether does your mom. its not something you can snap out of just like that. while i was in treatment we had family therapy sessions bi-weekly. My mom had a chance to learn about my condition, and now im home and me and her have aa much better relationship. she understands that i have a condition, and takes me to a therapist every week. she talks to me and my mom for a few minutes and then just me. As, for self mutilation, im still trying to get over that. lifes sucks but there are things you can do. Talk to your school psychologist or your school counsilor. they’re more educated in this field than your mom is. Hope i helped. and remember your not the only one.

]]> Comment on Homeless Children: How Can I Help? by T.K. Englander http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/homeless-children-how-can-i-help/2009/02/10/#comment-3207 T.K. Englander Wed, 21 Oct 2009 05:06:49 +0000 http://www.scottcounseling.com/wordpress/?p=1933#comment-3207 Really good video; clear and moving. I'm glad I stumbled upon it. Really good video; clear and moving. I’m glad I stumbled upon it.

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