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Cutting: Self-Injury Facts & Statistics

Self-Injury Behavior

Over the past year, one in five females and one in seven males have engaged in some form of self-injury type behavior.  The growing concern of “cutting” is now on the forefront of many mental health agencies, schools and youth leaders concerns for young adults today.  This article provides the reader with some basic facts and statistics on this interesting, but often scary topic.

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The “Cutting” Edge Facts

  • 90% of self-injury individuals begin harming themselves during their teen years or younger.
  • Cutting and other self-injury behavior crosses all cultures and socio-economic norms.
  • Cutting and self-injury is a method used by individuals to take care of themselves, their feelings and actions.
  • 40% of all individuals who commit self-injury type behaviors are males.
    Almost 50% of cutters or self-injury individuals have reported being sexually abused.
  • Almost 50% of self-abusers begin at the age of 14 and continue into their 20’s.
  • Some studies indicate that cutting and other self-injury behavior is learned from friends or peers.

Go to Ask A Counselor to find out what to do if your child is cutting.

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189 comments

  • Kelsey says:

    I am doing a report on this topic for school. Where did you get your statistics from? I would like to use them in my presentation but cannot use information from a .com website.

    Thank you

  • natalie says:

    i cut myself…and it’s the hardest thing to stop. i’m addicted to it. But now, i don’t want to stop.

    • amycakes says:

      i know the feeling all to well of what youre talking about.

    • Aaron says:

      Hey Natalie, have you talked to anybody about this before now? if not and you’d like some help please contact me at aaron@revivethecity.org and I will do my best to get you the best help I can.

    • Jordan says:

      I love you for who you are, being and ex-cut addict I know exactly how you feel. If you want to find the hope to this darkness, I would be more than happy to just talk. Know that there are thousands out there that know exactly how you feel, you are not alone, and there are even more that love you, including me.

    • Nicole says:

      Hi, i feel the same way but im not sure what to do… Did u ever stop? Any suggestions or comments?

      • megan says:

        hey i used to cut started really young and was able to stop after 3 years of treatment….
        it is very hard to stop i wont deny that because you will want to stop and then you want and it sometimes goes back and forth…. you will have slip ups but thats okay its not the end of the world!!! i have had many people tell me somethings that got me up and why i kept continuing to do my best and get self harm free

        A you may have a slip u but doesn’t mean you failed the only time you fail is when you give up.

        B if you arent truly ready to get help you arent going to get anywhere with it cause you have to be able to admitt you need help and then be able to except the help and do your best to help yourself too

        c you have to take one day at a time if you try to do more and more and your still worried and stressing out already about that day why put more on yourself….
        keep your boat a float with one day at a time…

        think of somthing that is really special to you every day and try to keep yourself clam…. deep breaths in and out

        make sure you try to think of what normally makes you feel like you need to cut burn etc try and figure your cycle out so when its about to begin you can try to stop it…

    • Emerald T. says:

      I understand where you’re coming from. I was a cutter and I was addicted to it for years and never believed that I could stop; that the addiction would stay. But I also did not want to stop, at first. But it took 20 minutes alone with a razor and a rush to the hospital to realize that I needed to stop. I know it’s hard and you may not want to, but think of all the people you are hurting and/or could hurt. If you believe that you can stop, and with the right help (psychiatric hospitals are your best bet for real help because you can’t do it alone), you can beat your addiction. I did. And I know you can too.

    • Echidna says:

      i was just like you but i found something that i wanted to stop for some one i wanted to stop for. i stopped after 2 years of cutting, and when i did stop i was in a wheal chair, i also was carving in to my ankle and the back of my neck. i stopped for someone i loved because i knew that he know that he couldn’t take it, he never under stood it cutting and what it was all about. just think of it down the road. who will you meat and what will you have to tell them to make it up. how are you going to cover it up, how are you going to tell them what it is. think about your family down the road, the little ones that mite come out of this. what are you going to tell them when they ask you what they are, what is on your arm, lag, chest, neck even. i was trying to hide them i was cutting behind my ear. just think about that and it would help you to stop it should help.
      i hope that it helps.

    • caitlin says:

      I cut, and I’m kinda shy about it so this is the first time I’ve talked about it. My mom won’t let me cut, but I feel like I need to cut. I only cut with a staples. Both of my friends used to cut and I think I might be cutting because they did, but I’m not sure. I want help, but I don’t want anyone to know about. I don’t have any money though, so I don’t know what to do. I only cut 16 times, and I’m 12. I am trying to stop on my own, but it’s not easy. I keep a staple with me at all times just in case, but I kinda want to stop. I am very confused right now

      • Raven says:

        I started cutting in the 7th grade, so about 12 years old. Im 20 now and i stopped for a while, didnt do it for a year then this year something broke me inside and i gave in. I recently got engaged and when he had seen what i had done he was excruciatingly upset with me and that it was partly because of him. i vowed to never do it again. When i was in the 7th grade i was molested. I never told anyone till my junior year of high school but i still didnt stop. i was also abused by my mother growing up and CPS never did a thing about it, then after the abuse slowed down i just became depressed with my life. I cut for 7 years, I have scars ALL OVER my body, on both arms, legs, ankles, stomach and back. its hard to go out in the summer in a bikini and not get judgemental stares but those you dont know… evenafter you’ve change alot and no longer do it. its very hard to stop but i have faith in all that want to. i know what i was doing was hurting those i loved most. its not worth it. i took up kick boxing and MMA to release my aggression and after my classes i didnt have enough tension to cut and it stayed that way ….. i look at my scars now and they make me sad…… my fiance’ will lay with me and trace some of them sometimes….. then tell me im beautiful and glad no more will be added and i promise i wont. i Think about my sharp sided friend still but now with the way my life is heading, if im upset, thinking is all i need to satisfy the craving

    • DuBoodle says:

      I cut too, and I have SI-ed for about 10 years (I’m 14).
      See, in all my research…it’s not that you’re addicted to the actual act of it. You’re addicted to the endorphins it releases, which gives you the feeling of being addicted to cutting.
      It’s kind of complicated..but that’s the gist of it.

      • TKM says:

        You said you’ve been cutting for 10 years and you’re 14. My daughter is 4 years old and has been scratching herself to bleed, pulling her scabs, pulling her hair and pinching her nipples. She also has an unhealthy eating problem. She does feel bad when she hurts herself, but she likes it. We are getting her help now, but there isn’t much info out there on children this young. Can you give me some insight?

        PS – My daughter was adopted internationally at 11 months old. In the last year she has started to display these issues..today is the first day that she showed me she scratched herself to bleed. I am devastated..

        • Cheryl says:

          Hi
          I’ve just come across your comment on a website about children who cut.
          Today my son showed me wounds from where he has cut himself. He is 13yrs old and the first time I knew he’d done it he was about 7yrs old.
          I thought it had stopped (and probably replaced with over-eating)
          He has been assessed by doctors and is seeing a councelor at school (prior to this recent episode)
          I really don’t know what more I can do?
          We saw a teacher today as I panicked and she asked to see him tomorrow morning – however after reading some stuff online I see that you shouldn’t make them talk to people but just be there for them to support them. I asked if he would rather I told her that he just wants to speak to me for now and he said yes. We spoke a bit and it seems to come from either being bullied for years (daily) or from a friends friend who has told him about ‘Emos’
          Really upset and confused right now and just wondered if you found anything that worked?
          Sorry to ramble but this is the first place I saw to discuss it with others.
          Thanks for reading
          Cheryl

          • Katie says:

            I understand what he is going through, my mom found out and even though she had a hard was of showing it, it was killing her inside. Dont force your son into therapy, honestly that only makes us kids mad. They should try to stop on their own, there is a few methods not recognized by many therapist for that. You might want to search that. The best I know of is the butterfly project. Also, you might want to see how long your child has cut. If you want, you can tell him to email me if he feels the need. its kingkatelin@yahoo.com. By the way, I am a 14 year old girl(freshman) and I have been cutting since I was 11 and in the 7th grade. As for the emo thing, you might want to explain to him(or just show him this), that emo is really a sub-genre of rock music and that the style is more called scene.

    • dustin says:

      i use to i know you dont wanna stop but when you do youll feel way better. i would know

    • melissa says:

      natalie.. i was a cutter for years. im 19 now and i understand how hard it is.. trust me. ive been through it all hospitals, therapy… it sucks.. the advice i can give you is go and seek help thats the only way you can do it. i unfortunately learned the hard way.. and it wasnt good. but therapy was actually good for me. you have to believe in yourself and believe you can do it. if you doubt yourself one bit the addiction will eat you alive. just think as positive as you can.. i got through it because i had such supporting friends and family and i was tired of hurting the people i love as well as myself. you can do it.

    • Scott says:

      Parents:

      Many children begin cutting to to replace their emotional pain with physical pain. Some emotional pain is brought on due to problems at home. The Total Transformation Program (Information provided in our ad space to the right) may help you, the parent, reduce parent/child stress at home. Try The Total Transformation Program today!

    • erin says:

      its ok hunny i know how you feel because i used to cut myself as well. it is a hard thing to beat and an addictive action but if you find the right reasons and motivations, you can do it. i did it. i know you can too. i went the therapy for 7 months twice a week and i stopped for a little while but then relapsed. but then i found the light and found the strngth to stop. god bless the people who helped me.

    • Lindsey says:

      Hey, I don’t know how old this comment is, didn’t look to see if there was a date. Anyways, I had been cutting for a long, long time. The problem with it is, it becomes addicting after some time.

      • Krystle says:

        Young ladies, I am 24 years old. I have been a Self – Mutilator for 14 years now. I have cut, burned, picked, pierced and tatooed my emotional pain away. I have been abused sexually 5 times in my life. Self injury is very hard for other to understand. I am currently starting a Self – Mutilators Anonymous in Topeka, KS. There are groups online for support. Unfortunetly there are only two person to person meetings in the united states right now. If you would like suggestions or just want to talk; I am here. Let me tell you that I am NOT a professional but I have a lot of experience in the area. From treatment and personal knowledge. My email is krystleescobar@yahoo.com Good luck! And remember The feelings shall pass, you are not alone.

    • marina says:

      cutting is a hard thing to stop. trust me im 18 and i started when i was 14. i think about it every day. but its not good for you.

  • Skye Holt says:

    Hello, i am also doing a synopsis report on self-mutilation. This was good info, thank you. Your piture is ewwie though. Its ok because i cut myself and i see it everyday. Lol

  • Vivian says:

    What is the ethical practice for school counselors who work with students engaging in cutting behavior?

  • Scott says:

    Vivian:

    Two ethical standards of practice need to be considered while assisting a minor (17 years of age or under) who is cutting:

    1) Teaching and Education- A school counselor’s role, similar to all educators, involves teaching and education. Cutters are searching for strategies to reduce emotional pain. That’s where we, school counselors, begin to go to work!

    2) Referral and out of school assistance- Due to the fact that we are assisting minors in a situation where they are harming themselves, we are obligated to contact the parent or guardian. Educating parents about cutting is important. Chronic cutters often need assistance beyond the scope and practice of a school counseling. Encouraging parents to contact their medical doctor for further assistance is not only ethical, but a must.

    Thanks for your question!

    Scott
    ScottCounseling.com

  • Rebecca says:

    i cutt when i was 11 and did not stop untill i was 14 thank you ZCS for you help.

  • Scott says:

    Thanks for sharing Rebecca. Can you or someone else share what ZCS is.

    Thanks!

    Scott
    ScottCounseling.com

  • Gaye says:

    I starting cutting at age 14, that was after years of biting my nails until they bled and pulling out my hair. I’m 39 now and though I cut less often it is still a problem for me.
    I have been in and out of counseling several times, but that in itself has never really helped.

  • KJAJF says:

    God can heal all these problems

    • dk says:

      If so He should have shown up a LONG time ago.

      • Nita says:

        God is always there!! He wants to help us with all of our problems, but sometimes WE won’t allow His help! HE WILL help you with this, if you truly want Him to, and if you will allow Him into your heart and life. GOD LOVES YOU LIKE NO ONE ELSE IN THIS WORLD EVER COULD!! I pray that God would wrap His loving arms around each and every one of you!! My daughter has this problem, and we are beginning the healing process, so I can relate to the feelings associated with this. But, my GOD is bigger than any problem!! HE will get us through this, and He will do the same for you, if you have FAITH in HIM and BELIEVE that HE can do it!! My prayer every day for my daughter is that God would give her peace for her mind, strength for her body, and love for her heart! I will pray the same for every person that has ever hurt themselves. Even though it would be impossible for me to know every name, GOD KNOWS!! AND HE WILL ANSWER THE PRAYERS OF A TRUE BELIEVER!! I LOVE YOU ALL AND YOU ARE ALL IN MY PRAYERS!!

        • Stacy says:

          God is there for people and, i believe in him but, when my parents found out that I cut myself they told my youth pastors and this is what they said: congrats you got the attention you wanted now stop this nonsense but that is not even why I cut. I look up to them but, now i don’t know how to. Mood: Hurt :.(

          • Summer says:

            Hello Stacy. I am really sorry to hear that your youth pastors said that to you. I am a youth pastor and I deal with this issue a lot with young girls. To be honest there is no excuse for what they said other than they made a mistake. I have never been a cutter, but as a teenager I dealt with pain and loneliness by having sex. It is something that destroyed me emotionally but God has restored by life and now I get to help teenagers who are struggling with the everyday pain of life by helping them find another way…God.
            I pray that you will give God another chance and not let what your youth pastors told you keep you from finding freedom and happiness. I’m praying for you Stacy.
            Be blessed,
            Summer

  • Ernie says:

    my best friend and i both are active with different forms of self-injury. im really worried about my friend more than i am worried about myself. my friend feels the same way about me. is there some sort of a group therapy or counseling session we could both attend for teens?

  • Scott says:

    Ernie:

    Thanks for the question regarding cutting. Yes, there are treatment facilities and counseling centers that offer support groups. For example: dial 1-800-dontcut for cutting treatment centers located by you.

    This Website also offers help specifically for cutting:
    http://www.treatment-center.com/

    Finally, contact your medical doctor (or your health insurance company) who will refer you to a specialist in this are.

    Act today…it’s good to get help!

    Scott
    ScottCounseling.com

  • Scared says:

    What if I don’t want to stop cutting? I have been in the hospital twice, the second time was because I almost died from overdosing. I don’t want to die anymore, but everyone is making me stop cutting when I don’t want to. Shouldn’t it be my choice??

    • rayne says:

      i think theyre just worried about you. you have to try to see it from their point of view. ya its your choice but these people love you and dont want you hurting yourself):

    • tired of everything says:

      i think that you should be able to make you’re own choices. i started cutting when i was 11. you have to decide for yourself if you want to keep cutting or now. if it’s forced it won’t help you at all. i know from experence. i’m almost 16 now and have stoped for over a month now. but it feels like an eternity. but it should totally be your decision.

    • someone who cares says:

      dont worry, one day you’ll be able to make that decision by yourself. i know, ive been there

  • Scott says:

    Dear Scared & SC Readers:

    No one who loves you, and I am sure there are many, wants you to end your emotional pain or fear by replacing it with physical pain.

    Readers…your thoughts?

    Scott
    ScottCounseling.com

  • lilma says:

    i cut myself…i hate myself..i dont know y i do it..i dont know if i m happy or sad…i m so confused..i need help…but i dont think i want any….c wt i mean?

    • Alone says:

      I know how you feel I was forced to get help last year. Since I didn’t know if the counselor knew about my cutting and my mom didn’t go with me i always wore long sleeves and never brought up my cuts. I didn’t know if I wanted help. He said I didnt need counseling after a while (probably because I pretended to be happy when there). But now I can’t stop myself from cutting it’s like I need it. I think I need help but I don’t want anyone to know and I don’t want my mom to know. I don’t know what to do or who to talk to if I even want to talk to somebody but I think I should ugh :/

  • Kayla says:

    When I was 13 I started cutting because I hated myself. I had been molested for years as a child and I hated myself for it. Now I (sorta) understand that it wasn’t my fault but I still can’t stand myself. I don’t eat but I’m still fat and that makes me mad so I cut open all the spots on my body that I don’t like. The cutting makes me feel better but the scars make me hate my body even more. Thus more starving, more dissapointments, and MORE cutting. It’s a circle. But what I don’t understand is what I’m supposed to try to stop doing first??? Should I try and quit everything at once?? And how?! I’m so confused and sick of it all

  • Windy(: says:

    I am sixteen, and have been cutting since age twelve. I honestly Am not sure why I started cutting but as far as stopping, I don’t see it in my near future.. I like it, it helps me cope no a days. I have also gotten into alot of things in the last year or so as far as SI goes. I dont know if I feel as ADDICTED as it sounds but, i cant stop. However, I would like to know if there is a number I can call so I can talk to someone about it. Free please(:.

    • jake says:

      I don’t know about professional help, but I was addicted to cutting myself Windy. I’ve been clean for a little over a month and if you want to talk I’d be more than happy to. Just send me an email at jspease2@yahoo.com. My name is Jake, I’m 16 and I’m an addict.

  • Jared says:

    Um…i cut…and im addicted to cutting, and i see nothing wrong with it…it actually makes me feel better and keeps me from killing myself…plus cutting, is how we show the scars on the inside that ppl have givin us…idk cutting is attracting…and is kool to see on ppl…plus cutting takes away my stress and when im depressed, it gets things off my mind…and when you have parents who tell you they don’t care…ya it helps a lot to cut…idk i wouldn’t say don’t do it… i would say do it…cause it helps…better then drugs anyway…

    • Reba says:

      I know that cutting seems like the best thing to do, but the only reason people feel better after they do it is because when you do it, it releases endorphins and that makes you feel better. But this is a really serious issue. I cut too and I’ve been clean for over a month now and it feels great. Whenever I feel like doing it, I listen to music and write and get all of my feelings out, I cry a lot too. I agree that it helps more than drugs do, but it is still a very serious problem. I suggest next time you feel like cutting, go play basketball, go for a run, listen to music or write. Those things will help you get your feelings out. You can even go find a friend that you can trust and tell them everything that is going on with you and your cutting. It’s really good to have that one person that you can go to with any of your problems who will listen. Plus if you have any friends who are struggling with it you can’t fully help them until you help yourself first. Please take my advice. You will feel so much better once you stop and find another outlet for all of your feelings. Hope this helps!

  • Scott says:

    Jared:

    You may feel that your parents don’t care..and maybe they don’t. The fact is, there are other who do! There are also other ways to help you cope with things you need “help with” beside cutting or self-injury.

    Using cutting to make yourself feel better is like using a one inch bandage on a wound that needs 100 stitches; the bandage is not enough.

    There are literally thousands of individuals who have stopped cutting by:

    1) Schedule and see a medical doctor- you would do this if you had a high fever!
    Do it for your depressed situations.
    2) Speak with your school counselor or out-of-school counselor. Talk with a youth or church/religious counselor- you would see your dentist for a tooth ache, see a counselor for the emotional pain you are experiencing.

    • Ava says:

      You’ve obviously never cut or had reason to.The way he discribed cutting is the best definition that I’ve seen. Cutting isn’t a medical problem in the way you’re speaking of it, you start it and you end it, a fever or toothache is something we have no control over

  • Mel says:

    I started cutting at 15 and was finally free from it a few months ago at 20. My mother is bipolar and very controlling. On her meds, she was your average control freak. Off her meds, she became abusive. My way of controlling my life was cutting. I loved to decide how big, how deep, and where to do it.

    The first step in escape is to tell someone, anyone. This does not mean you must stop right away, but now you have someone to talk to about it when you do it, or even call on before you do it.

    I was 18 when I finally told someone. 2 years later I was able to stop without being forced. I actually wanted to stop. Getting someone else’s input, someone with an open mind who won’t run screaming into the night, can make all the difference.

  • sasha says:

    i used to cut well i still do but hardly. its harder then it looks to stop its an addiction.

  • Haley says:

    I cut for seven years after being sexually abused by my boyfriend for a year. It sounds silly, I know, but I quit “cold turkey” because I told the people around me what was happening and as much as I hated it I made them remove the resources. Granted I’m sure that strategy won’t necessarily work for everyone but if you really truly want to stop hurting yourself try choosing one person that you really trust and talk to them about it. A sibling, a best friend, whomever. If they care about you (and I’m certain they do) they’ll do whatever it takes you help you. And if you want to talk about it, you can talk to me too. :D My email is hegan@worcester.edu. I hope I helped!

  • Kyl says:

    If I make it through tomorrow, it will be eighteen months without breaking my skin. I’ve never felt so empty in my life. Injuring myself doesn’t fix anything; neither does not hurting myself. The counselors tried to tell me other ways I could hurt myself without maiming myself. I don’t want another crutch, but then again, I clearly don’t know what I want.

    My only caution to others is be careful whom you tell: I talked with an RA and was sent to the dean’s office and potentially kicked out of school. It was the most detrimental experience of my life. Now I don’t feel comfortable talking to even my best friends when I’m upset. I don’t talk, I don’t cut, I just don’t.

  • Scott says:

    Kyl:

    The cutting addiction, like other addictions is often challenging and difficult to beat. The fact that you have gone 18 months without cutting is outstanding. The empty feeling you are going through may be depression. Over 40 million Americans have or will go through some level of depression sometime during their life time. Only a medical doctor can diagnose depression. Depression is treatable. I know you may not feel like talking with someone, but please speak with a medical doctor who will help you to feel better about life and get you through this “empty” feeling you are experiencing.

    Scott
    ScottCounseling.com

  • Fizz says:

    This site seems like a good place for teens to go when confused or lost. I am 31 now I dont cut anymore but I did cut for about 8 or 9 years. I stopped when I was 20 when my now ex-husband said he would leave me if I didnt. So i did. It wasnt easy at all! But if I had something to go to like this back then maybe I would have stop long before that.Great idea!!!

  • Rye says:

    I’ve been trying to stop cutting for quite awhile, but i always screw up. I have gone 4 months at the most. But somehow i just cant kick this habit. It’s so hard. At times, i want to stop and other i tell myself whats the point I;m going to end up cutting in the end. I have been doing since i was 16, now 23. Its still a struggle. I was raped by my ex at 16 thats when i started. But im havent been with him for a long time. I have gone to a counseler just this year, but not during the summer b/c of school is out.

    • MIa Ignacio says:

      I know how you feel except i was abused from the time I was 7 to 13 years old by an older cousin. You just need to find ways to keep your mind off of it.

  • Haley says:

    It’s not easy to stop. My situation was very much like yours and I didn’t stop until 5 years after I finally got the courage to leave him. I know I’ve offered before but if you want to speak to someone that has been through the situation PLEASE feel free to contact me, I have AIM (Lilhays08) and MSN Messenger (caerulea_anastasia@hotmail.com) or you can just email me at hegan@worcester.com. If you don’t want to thats alright to, but please remember, there IS hope.

  • Rachel says:

    I am currently a self harmer and going through a state of depression. I have previously self harmed in the past but went 2 years with minor slip ups with out cutting, now recently with an episode with my parents I strayed back to it and now once again I am finding it so difficult to stop.

    Before I managed to quick by myself, but now I’m finding far more difficult. Due to a bad experience a couple of weeks ago which resulted me getting stitches in my wrist made me realise that I really needed to stop. I’ve probably been feeling more low than I have ever done before and I’ve never told any body this but I once took an over dose because I just wanted to end it all. Now simply I don’t know how I feel any more or even what I want.

    Next monday will be my first counciling session and I’m really scared about it. I find it very difficult to talk about my feelings and rarely show my emotions apart from through self injury. A part of me wants to stop yet a huge part of me wants to carry on. To be truthly honest I’m scared to be alone most of the time because I’m afraid I’ll do something I’ll regret. Some times I feel crazy!

  • Haley says:

    The good thing about counseling is you don’t HAVE to talk about it right away. I didn’t talk to my therapist for about a month about self injury. Instead when I first started going to see him we talked about other things like politics or current affairs. Anyway, I hope it went well, and I hope whatever yo talked about was what you needed most at the time.

  • kelsie says:

    um… i have been cutting for a long time starting when i was in the seventh grade untill a couple months ago.

    i started because i wanted to fit in with my friends it seems really stupid now but i just couldnt stop! i tryed servel times.. i never cut so deep that it scared very much, but when my parents are fighting and my brother is a pain in my butt , i lost it and cut VERY deep i have very sever depression and never had help i deal it with myself by cutting.

    it got so bad i was cutting everyday, you could say one word and i was sprilling out of control.
    it WAS controling my life, i had to wear long sleave everyday,, and in texas it is way to hot to do that.

    my brother found out that i was self harmming and told my dad and he just said i was stupid for doing it and that only people that have problems cut.
    YES! dad people with problems cut; i have problems!!
    he still has yet to do anything!

    i am afriad i am going to slip up during the school year high school is not the easiest thing ever..
    i need to get over this it is still controling my life!

    • Bree says:

      Kelsie,
      i know a bit what you feel like. My parents care, but i CAN’T talk to them, it just doesn’t feel right.n I’m not that close with them. We get along well, but we’re not close. I started because i feel like no one loves me except family – bu i don’t feel like i can count them because they practically have to. I don’t really cut, what i like to call it is scratch. Its not deep enough to let blood escape or anything – just scratching away a layer of skin. I want to cut, but I’m scared. I just want to do it once but what if i get addicted… i think i may know where your coming from with your father and all. My parents have told me don’t act so depressed. And that there are a million others with a worse life, but I’m not acting i can’t help it! And its so stupid because it all started with two boys. I didn’t ask either out because I’m to shy to do that, but i liked/like (i still like one, the other is an old crush) them and talk to them but it feels like they don’t know i exist. I’m mad at myself because its my own fault. And i want to be loved by a guy! sounds irrational and stupid but my biggest fear is that no one will love me before i die. Anyways, just talk to me, i want to help you because your story touches me, but i don’t want to feel like a councler to you, because i personally don’t like the feeling that i NEED help. I’ll be your friend (i am only 15)

  • Lillian says:

    There should be non profit counselors or people that self harmers can go to. My mother just got mad and yelled at me when she found out, she told me she was going to send me away to an asylum and to stop wallowing in self pity. I guess i understand where she is coming from, my parents work their asses of for my family and i guess they feel like when i cut im being ungrateful. Yet at the same time i don’t care, i don’t want to stop, i don’t feel sad or happy about it im indifferent. I would just like someone to talk to so i could try to understand why i cut. That is what confuses me the most i have never been able to find a reason, i have a fair life, no abuse or anything like that. I just cut, its been three years, ive gotten so good at hiding it, all i want is to find out why. Why do i cut? I just need someone to help me find it out, i can’t go to a doctor alone, you need a parent and there is no way i can ask my mother to take me. I feel like its not fair on them, yet at other times when i go to her crying about how i just feel empty and overwhelmed… she just tells me to stop feeling sorry for myself. I try to be strong and support my friends(one of my friends father just passed away) i don’t like to complain, because in all truth i have nothing to complain about. My friends need my help not someone who can’t deal. I don’t cut because i have problems, i just enjoy it, but i don’t know why. I feel so confused there has to be someone, a professional or someone i can go to that my parents don’t have to know or pay for.

    • sari says:

      wow! Lillian, you just described my life situation in detail almost to the exact last year! stuff got a lot worse though and long story short after a suicide attempt i ended up in psychiatric hospital. Please get help. if your like me, you dont want to because, like you said, you dont want to be a complainer since in other peoples eyes your life is fine. no real abuse. but you ARE HURTING. you probably have depression problems like me. and you cant control that! its a severe medical condition! if you had diabetes you wouldnt deny your self insulin would you? so dont deny yourself the help you need whether its SSRIs, counseling or whatever the docs tell you. My mom did not understand depression and niether does your mom. its not something you can snap out of just like that. while i was in treatment we had family therapy sessions bi-weekly. My mom had a chance to learn about my condition, and now im home and me and her have aa much better relationship. she understands that i have a condition, and takes me to a therapist every week. she talks to me and my mom for a few minutes and then just me. As, for self mutilation, im still trying to get over that. lifes sucks but there are things you can do. Talk to your school psychologist or your school counsilor. they’re more educated in this field than your mom is. Hope i helped. and remember your not the only one.

      • Lillian says:

        I had completely forgotten that i had posted this… But Sari thank you so much for the response it’s honestly comforting to know that there are people who care and have similar stories and that I am not being just a spoiled brat. I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about it yet really… I’ve never felt comfortable speaking to my school psychologist, my mother works at school and I feel like I would be embarrassing her. I will be going to college next year so I will probably be able to get some help there. But I do feel like i have grown allot over this past year, or that I understand my cutting a bit more now… I still do it and I still partake in self harming behaviors. I have started to consider slight depression seeing as how some of my crying spells have gotten worse and I have started to develop mild insomnia, i still however doubt whether it is real depression or a teen angst phase. Thank you again for showing me that some people care…. and i hope you feel better and work through your depression and best of luck to you

        • Jordan says:

          I totally know that feeling. My life seems really good. My parents are middle class and I go to a Christian school. I think the worst thing that’s happened to me is my parents divorcing, but it happens to a lot of peoPle. I was never abused. But I jut get so angry or sad when my mom or dad say or do something…. I just feel like I can’t handle it. So I cut. I’ve been SI ing since I was 8, and I didn’t even know it. I thought it was normal to hit yourself and drag your nails across your skin. Then when I was 15 I started cutting with sciccors… And I found a razor. In fact, on my thigh I have a “scar tattoo” that says life is good, so that maybe in the future I won’t be sad when I see it. I just can’t stop, and I don’t want to either.

    • Laura says:

      This is my life. I dont have a pinpoint reason, I just have these overwhelming feelings that will not go away.

      I don’t cut because the feeling is so great, I do it know because I’m addicted to it.

      The problem is I know its killing me, but its how I cope. I’ve ruined so many relationships because of it. People dont understand it, I dont even understand it.

  • david says:

    self injury scars seem to be the most persistent scars ever; although the cutting has stopped and things got eventually “better”, the ruined arm constantly reminds me of how awful things were and prevent me from living my life in a “good” way. just depressing to see that they dont seem to go away. so anyone whos reading this: my advice: never inflict permanent damage to your body. there will be unchangeable regrets… which makes you feel even worse

  • slt says:

    I started cutting when I was 12. My parents found out, sent me to therpy. i stopped cutting so that they would shut up about the whole, becasue it’s really NOT a big deal at all. It didn’t really help me…my parents won’t let me talk to the friend that told me about cutting in the first place. That’s only making me want ot go back. Now they think that I’m going to do drugs, drink, and be a whore.

  • Emit says:

    Cutting is not easy to stop, in-fact its anything but, the pain on the outside is easier to deal with than pain on the inside, taking several pain killers take away the pain of the cut, but they cant take away the emotional pain, and its addictive. i have bee cutting since i was 14, and i’m 17 now, and i have tryed to stop, but i just find other ways to convert the pain, and to be fair, most of those are worse.

    • Jessica says:

      this is the time when you really need to talk to someone. your life is worth so much more better than cutting or harming yourself. please, i used to cut and i finally broke down and told someone. i promise you, it will be hard at first, but the feeling of knowing that you don’t have to cut yourself anymore to relieve the pain and stress is so much more fulfilling than cutting.

  • zoie says:

    i cut myself…i hate it but its an addiction i wish i could stop but…i dont know i just cant. no one knows about it but me and my best friend …it doesnt really help by her knowing because she doesnt try to help and when i bring the subject up she just changes the subject. i told her because iv known her since kindergarten and i can trust her with anything. but i dont think she likes the thought of me cutting myself and just doesnt want to talk about it…i want and need to tell my mom but im not sure how to tell her or how she will react …it scares me for people to know cause i think they will think im crazy or treat me diffrent… im only a teen and that sucks… :/

  • Libby says:

    i am 20, i started cutting when i was 11. from 5th grade until now. im a sophmore in college. its not an easy thing to over come. once you start your life will never be the same. and regardless of how long you go without it, the scars will always be there are a reminder of the pain. i go to college in NC, it gets very hot. i always wear long pants and as soon as the temperature drops to about 70 i will be in long sleeves because it bothers me alot to always have people stairing at my scars. i know those who read this will wonder why i didnt go to a school with colder weather…well i did. i confided in someone and when i had a relaps they called 911 & i was taken involuntarily to the ER. i went to a very small college of 900 students. as soon as this person said something to one person, everyone knew. i had to leave. dealing with life as a self-injurer is never easy. thats when you have a choice…. dealing with how everyone will see you or continuing to cut.

    • Albany Rose says:

      But that’s still you being ashamed of who you are. Folks ALWAYS stare at my stabs and cuts, and I simply keep on smiling. They can think what they want, the person I am is beautiful, confident, and happy! If you’re going to spend your whole life behind a mask, then you will never find true joy, and will never accept yourself; thus not living at all.

  • Krissy says:

    cutting isnt an addiction its a way for a true cutter to release pain depression abuse thats y and once you have started to cut its hard to stop bc thats all you know every little thing upsets you and you feel the need to cut i should know i was a cutter am a cutter that lable never goes away but I havent cut in 2 yrs and still going strong and hopefully i never will

    • Albany Rose says:

      You just made a complete hypocrite of yourself. It IS an addiction because most people WONT/ or as you say “CAN’T” stop. Yes there’s “true” cutting (although that’s sick to me, to label it as something to be proud of) rather than someone who makes little slits because they’re ‘sad’ and need ‘release’.

  • Lauren says:

    I want to talk to someone about my cutting, but if I tell my school they’ll send me away. I love my life, parents, family, friends, church, everything, but I cut myself still I don’t know why I do it, but it makes me feel better about myself. It makes me feel strong like, “hey, look at the kind of pain I can handle.”

  • Jamie says:

    through God anything is possible. Cast your burdens on the Lord for he cares about you. He got me though this and He can with you too. Just let him in.

    Look up music like:

    tenth avenue north
    Skillet
    Toby Mac
    Pillar
    Casting Crowns
    Kutless

    • Albany Rose says:

      God and Love are the same thing. Not some guy, but inner love. It’s not “We are the SONS of God” but “We are the SUNS of God” for we are all one, equally. We are love.

  • B-Bird says:

    I have cut before. My friend and I struggle. But I keep wantint to go back to it, although I know I shouldn’t. What do I do??

  • Lacy says:

    i needed an escape. and it was the friend that was always there for me. it was a daily thing for years. then i slowly starting to make myself stop.
    i loved it though. it was everything to me. to see the scars made me proud. and i wanted to show them off. i didnt though. for fear of what someone would think.
    my veins ached to bleed. i began to be able to feel my blood pulse through my veins.
    and it wanted out.
    ive stopped cutting but my mind goes back to it more than anyone would imagine.
    its like i miss it. the friend i always had. the thing that was always there for me.
    my scars are fading and that makes me sad. its part of me and i like the remembrance of it etched into my skin

    • Javie says:

      I know exactly what you mean. I used to cut since I was 8 or 9 and I finally got to stop when I was about 15. It wasn’t easy, but developing a relationship with Jesus Christ is what set me free from that “friend” that actually hurt me more than the reasons why I cut to begin with. I finally realized that my true friend was Jesus, and my loved ones who just wanted the best for me. Cutting was my only comfort growing up, but now I don’t even miss it. I’m glad I got rid of that so-called “friend”. I know you can do it, too. I’m not going to lie and say it’s easy, because it’s not but if I got through it, you can also. Now I help other teens that cut or used to cut. Jesus loves you and He wants to set you free from that and be your friend. :) God bless and I’ll be praying for you.

  • Jessica says:

    I am 20 years old and have been cutting for about 7 years now, the longest stint i have gon through with out cutting was 10 months. i cut myself after an incident with someone else a few weeks ago, the cuts have healed, the scars are beginning to fade, but the problem with the addiction part of it is i dont really want them to heal, i always want to make new cuts, i want something to treat, something to dress, a secret to hide. It’s hard to explain, it is very difficult at times to resist the impulse to cut; however i have found god and since having that influence in my life it is a little easier to say no to those urges. but they are still there, at my peak i was cutting 2-3 times in a day, this went on for months. now i go more than 6 months in between crashes. I am proud of the progress i have made. i sympathise with cutting, i do not believe it is “wrong” or that anoyoone is “bad” for doing it, there are better ways to cope, and it can be over come.also its not just desperation that leads to cutting, i have cut because i was too happy and needed to come back to reality, because i was bored, or angry, there were times i would look for an excuse to carve up myself. just because you fall and start again doesnt mean you have failed. its just a relapse, you can get back on track again.

    what helps me is to rationalise my feelings and thoughts. is it really going to matter in the next week? day? a few hours from now? or wheni feel utter desperation i try to find something distracting..,. movie, sleep, friends, internet, videogames, going out to eat, or just going for a walk. Find a person you can talk about your problems to, or write them down (you can tear these up afterwards :) ,its liberating) all these help.

    i’m still on the road to recovery, i have no idea how long it will take me to get there, and i do step off sometimes, the important thing is to get back on the road. There are many sites and different assosiations out there that an help you stop. Thank you. If you have any questions you can feel free to E-mail me Libralynn1013@hotmail.com

  • Kris says:

    Hello Scott. I was wondering if there are any statistics on ages younger than 12 or 13… I’ve been cutting since i was 9. I wonder everyday if there are others like me.

  • Emokid says:

    I started cutting early in the 8th grade. It was to deal with alot of emotional pressure. Now I just do…. I’ve been labeled “Emo” at my school, but no one even knows I cut. I cut on my upper arm and shoulder so I can still wear short sleeve shirts.I don’t do it often, but it’s getting more frequent. But, I like it. I don’t know why… but it’s appealing…

  • StarCut19 says:

    I’ve been a Cutter for 8 years. I began in the 5th grade and have been trying to stop for about 5 years now. But I can’t seem to stop. I’m addicted to it like many of you have said. I once stoped for 179 days. Then relapsed after a few weeks at College. I’m a freshmen this year and don’t do well with change, and college is a HUGE change. I always thought i’d be able to stop once i got to college, but aparently not. right now i’m one day into recovery again. before that it was 21 days. I hope to make more progress.

  • Ciara says:

    I’m doing a report on cutting the physcology behind it and ways to prevent it and I would like to ask permission to use a few of these entries as quotes in my story.
    Please and thank you

  • xxxStitchesxxx says:

    Im 14 and ive been cutting for 2 years now … Cutting is hard to stop ive been in re-hab 4 times already .. and managed not do it anymore .. my girlfriend really helped me alot with it too .. she was nice and helpfull sometimes made me feel like she cared but .. then she broke up with me .. we had been dating for a year .. and it was hard to let her go .. especially to see her with another guy … alot of us dont like to share or talk to ppl about it .. but it does help and make a diffrence .. talk to a friend, cousin ..etc.

  • Dadof exemo says:

    My daughter used to cut herself. She says that she started after hanging around with some “emo” kids. Apparently, these kids told her that cutting was part of emo. They really did a number on my daughter. She is recovering, but people would be wise to avoid these emo kids. Take a look at emodanger.co.cc for more information.

    • Melissa says:

      i take this comment as pretty offensive… me and some of my friends would be concidered “emo” and i am the only one of my friends who cut, and my “EMO” friends, they try to stop me from cutting, they did not make me start cutting… that would have been my uncles suicide and my moms attempted suicide. before you go blaming her friends, maybe you should look deeper into what your family has done to make her want to cut, if you honestly cant find the slightest thing, then go ahead blame people like me and my friends…. by the way, emo is a stereotype… just because somebody is emo doesnt mean they cut

    • Alexa says:

      I would first like to know how you would describe an “emo” kid. If you describe them as wearing black, piercings, screamo music, cutters, etc. here is my response. I dress “emo” or “scene” does that make me a bad person? I am a christian with a pastor for a father, and have gone to christian schools my whole life, never to a public. Am I automatically a bad person because I like screamo music and dress in black? NO. I hang out with a lot of different groups of people and the “emo” group are very normal.

      I find it very offensive that you would think just because someone looks a certain way they are bad people. I can’t believe that a grown woman with a child would be this close minded. It amazes me how ignorant some people can be.

      I have a suggestion for you. Don’t tell your kids, and other peoples children, to not hang out with “emo” people. Tell them not to hang out with troublemakers. Did you know that a “hipster” can be just as bad a an “emo”? Did you know someone who dresses completely normal, and listens to Justin Bieber can cut? Realize everyone can cut. Size, shape, style, and mind; it doesn’t matter what you look like.

      Please don’t judge a book by their cover. It doesn’t make them look bad, but you. Have a good day :)

      • Alexa says:

        Ps. My comment about being a christian is the fact that I follow God’s laws, rules, and do my best to walk in his ways. Not trying to say “CHRISTIANS ARE ALWAYS GOOD PEOPLE AND THE REST OF YOU CAN SUCK IT!” Just saying that I have grown up in a good environment, with a lot of loving, caring, people. So by saying that, I am implying that dressing “emo” doesn’t make you bad, because someone who follows the bible can’t really be that bad of a person right? Sorry if this sounds bad I am not trying to be offensive to non christians :)

  • StarCut19 says:

    Ok so your daughter hung out with “emo” kids. But the “emo” kids didnt make her cut herself. Don’t blame them for her problems. Yes they may have given her the idea. But in the end SHE made the decision.

  • Jax says:

    I’ve cut for four years and I’ve been “clean” for 2months. It’s something that never leaves you and never lets you go. You feel the temptation to do it the rest of you’re life, and I know that. I’ll go for months, up to 10 once, without a single cut, and then it’s like that Malboro at midnight that you just HAVE to have, and it sneaks right back in. I never went to a hospital for this, I had a life that I didn’t want to ruin. I didn’t want to hurt the people that loved me. I read most of the comments and that’s something I never saw mentioned. Cutting isn’t just about teenage angst and all that, it’s about dealing with a situation that you find no other way to deal with…is it healthy? no. is it safe? No. Is it managable? Yes, one step at a time. Social support is useful, you need to know that people love you and care what happens to you. People say to love another, you have to love yourself first. Well, that’s a lie. I don’t love me, I’m usually pretty at odds with myself, but I love other people. I love a lot of people and I know that what i do to myself matters to them, and i don’t want to hurt them, and sometimes….just sometimes, that’s what it takes.

  • Shintelle says:

    I’m doing an article on this subject for my schools newspaper, your info was useful =]

  • john cook says:

    i cut myself because i am addicted to the taste of my own blood, i would find it hard to stop for a day but i also think life is crap

  • butterfingers says:

    I’m cutting myself, and it forced my boyfriend to give up on me and leave. I really want to stop but can’t. i’ve tried counseling but it only made things worse. i need help but I can’t figure out a way to get help without the situation becoming worse.

  • stephanie says:

    I never meant to hurt anyone by my cutting. I thought it wouldn’t affect anyone, but it does. I no longer have control of it. it’s as if there is another person in my body controlling me. People try to understand but can’t and give up. they don’t realize that, in order for me to stop or even be able to admit to an adult that I need help, I need their support. and They’re not giving it to me. They pretty much leave me here to fend for myself and this is something I cannot conquer on my own.

  • Courtney says:

    Hi all,

    I have a friend (yes, it really is a friend and this is not “code” for me), a beautiful, bright, amazing girl, who is dealing with a huge emotional burdens. She started cutting long before I met her, and to my knowledge she has not cut herself in recent months, but she has told me she wants to. There are many issues behind this situation but the main one is that as soon as we start talking and I ask questions or try to get insight into her thought-process she shuts down. She always just says “I don’t know why” or “I will make it better, I always make it better on my own” and she honestly believes she is the only one in the world with the problems. She refuses to seek any treatment, and just realizes on myself and our other good friend to make it through.

    How can I help her? I’ve told her that I’m not qualified to really help, but that I will be with her through it all. It is just so frustrating when she shuts down and I know I get angry, even though I try not to.
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated it. I want to help her.

    e-mail: little_moments_44@yahoo.com

  • Stephanie says:

    Hi my name is stephanie. I have cut for two years and am now doing a school paper on it. I believe it is a huge issue society secretly has and it needs to be shared. I need interviews and other point of views so if you have anything to say on this topic please contact me at Happybunnyix3@aol.com.

  • bianca says:

    I am doing a school project on this and all of thins information was very helpful. I also have many friends who cut and i understand what everyone is going through and i wish you all the best in trying to fix things, because from personal experiences i know that when you do find a way to stop, life becomes a lot easier.

  • mandy 22 years old says:

    i i do understand that cutting is really hard to stop. i have been harming myself since i was about 9 years old. i am now in a rehab for addiction and i am going to try and explain why people self harm.

  • Aleksandr says:

    well,i love to cut not for the reasons of most people. i cut do to the fact i love how the blood pours so nicely out of my wrist then as i lick the blood off the knife and my wrist i get ineffably overjoyed for my lust of blood for taste and sexually.well my qustion is is that normal? Plus for each cut on my wrist i have as a memory as such of a tattoo to recall and learn from them. i dont hide them i treat my cut wrist jest as if it werent cut and i hate when it attarcts attaition so that is the only reason i cut. so as i said before is that normal?

  • Albany Rose says:

    No one can MAKE you cut. Someone up there posted “the scars are the pain on the inside that people make us feel.” No one can MAKE you feel anything. They can trigger emotions, but then it still comes back to you. How much are you worth, are you valued?

    I always want to say ‘If you think you’re so worthless slit UP the wrist, not across, and end it all.’ It’s easy and you can quit doing you’re little thing.
    – But then I have to remember myself and the person I once was that is now dead. I started cutting when I was… Hmm… Young. I believe 12. I started out small. I would break glass things around my house and start slicing. But just one or two at a time and go really slow. My mother wanted me dead, and tried once to off me. My step-father was NEVER sexually abusive, but he wouldn’t really stand up for me. I raised my two little sisters because neither parents were ever home. School was no safe haven. I was tormented and teased, etc.. I was chubby, not shy and spoke everything that came to my mind. I was loathed by not just others, but myself. More anger grew and boiled inside of me till I couldn’t take it. My first try was a long-gated slice up my right art. Didn’t do what I wanted it to. Second try, 157 slashes across and up/down my left wrist. No death to be found. 3rd try was an OD, still didn’t work.

    I’ve cut numerous times through out my life since then. I am 18 years old now. I have the words “PLEASE LOVE ME” carved into my left arm, a giant light burn “smiley face” and numerous cuts all over. By breasts have X’s carved into them, and both of my legs; mostly my thighs, have extremely dark, Very visible, Very profound scars. Tiger stripes, gashes and gouges, just deep deep cuts.

    I then realized something. Who am I? What am I? If I don’t like what I’m doing or who I am, then only can change that.

    If you harm yourself because of pain, and self-loathing, and hurt and anger and hatred, you can not love or care for anyone or anything as long as you do. What you do to yourself is how you view the world. What you focus on you will Always create. I love myself fully. I do not hide my scars. I wear bikinis in the summer and T-Shirts all year round. I have been a model for years now, and am known for my scars. Much of the time my photographer’s and I will not edit out my scars- depending on the advertisement/purpose. They are my past, but they are NOT ME anymore.

    Silly or not, if anyone would like to keep in contact with me or ask for something or anything really, feel free to message me or go to my websites at all time.

    Love
    -Albany Rose

    (–I have myspace, but just look me up on Facebook. I’m very pale, and short hair, you’ll see.)

  • Tamara says:

    I am 19 and a freshmen in College. I am not you typical cutter. I was the preppy girl in high school that could have any guy I wanted i made the good grades and i had all the friends. But i hated myself and I had a horrible home life that i hide behind close doors. I also, lost my best friend to suicide right before we started our senior year together. Ive SI for 5 years now. I always believed that this nightmare of my addiction would have ended before now yet it has not. It is the thing i hate but ‘need’ at the same time. God set me free from this addiction that i had to have daily. As well as many other addictions this past summer. I went about 150 days before i relapsed about two months ago (my personal best) although God has set me free from the strong hold it had on my life i still struggle with it from time in time. People if you can get a grip on this horrible addiction try.. Life only gets harder and crap piles higher and higher. Work through your problems God listens and trust me there is nothing you cant bring to him because if you name it I have done it in my four short years of high school! Im prayer for each one of you to find freedom in Christ that i have. Talk to someone you just never know that person could just be the one to help you radically change your life and open your eyes to a beautiful world that is not always full of daisy’s but Life is not all that bad

  • anonymous says:

    I started cutting when I was 17. it has been very hard to stop. I really want to kill myself a lot of the time, at those times when I really am seriously thinking about it, I am trying so hard not to do anything that I start shaking. I am scared that I won’t be able to stop myself the next time. I am trying to get help from a therapist. But the scheduling is taking so long. The longer I wait, the less I feel like anything that they say will really help at all. I don’t feel like I need a therapist. I feel like I need somebody who will be there for me when I am having those thoughts.

  • Rachel says:

    I started cutting last year when i was 15. I used something blunt, so it left a big scar. I lie and tell everyone, even my parents, i fell. i think they know the truth, but don’t want to confront me. i moved school after that, but it just made things worse. i used a blade, but then i changed to using my nails. It doesn’t bleed, and it looks like it could have been caused by other things, like falling, something i’m accustomed to. I want it to stop, but no one, even my friends, listen. They scold me for being stupid, and say i just want attention. I can’t tell my parents. They’ll go crazy. I put on the mask that i’m happy, and i feel like a hypocrite, cause everytime my mother and i watch a movie about cutting, i say that i’ll never do it.

  • Shannon says:

    I cut. and i do want help but i don’t want people to find out about it. especially my mom. I think she knows I’m depressed and I might tell her about that and ask to go to a therapist but i still dont want her to know about my cutting. Do therapists or counselors tell your parents everything or will they keep my secret to themselves?

  • Jessica says:

    i know how everybody above is feelings because i used to cut myself. luckily, i got myself some help before it was too late. cutting is very dangerous, even if it makes you feel good. try taking pain away by doing something more healthier. for examples, if you need to talk to someone and you don’t think anyone will listen, write your thoughts down in a journal. that helped me alot. also, try going out for sports (boxing can really help eliminate stress and it is also very healthy to do the active part) or sign up for some after school activities. don’t get me wrong, i don’t think you are stupid for cutting because i been there, but please just do something more healthier and helpful to eliminate your stress and pain.

  • Kristy says:

    I used to cut all the time. But now I know exactly how it made my friends and family feel.. I try not doing it so often. But sometimes I slip… The only time I do it is when I get really mad. Or it feels like my world is coming to an end…

  • Staci says:

    I cut. It’s an addiction. I started in when i was twelve and have been cutting since, and I’m almost sixteen. My parents have seen my cuts many times and don’t care, they’re just glad I’m not smoking cigarettes instead. I cut at least once a week, sometimes more. I want to talk to someone, but I can’t bring myself to talk to a doctor because he would tell my mom and she doesn’t care. I’ve begged my parents for therapy, but they think I’m joking. I just want someone I trust to care. Problem is, I don’t trust anyone.

  • michelle says:

    my best friend cut herself it was the hardest thing to deal with. i cried for days because i thought i would lose her. shes my hero in a way unexplainable. if anyone ever needs to talk to someone. i know what its like so im here

  • Depressed_Kid says:

    I’m 19 and I have cut myself. The urges started at 18 after my ex girlfriend dumped me in August. I was depressed for about 2 months (had a 3 month relationship) after she broke up with me. I’m depressed again now because I can’t find work anywhere plus two girls I’m in love with, one of them is now in a relationship and the other is in love with some one else. Though I didn’t bleed (close to it though), cutting is addicting.

  • Sarah says:

    I’m 26 years old. i started cutting when i was 17 or so. i think about the longest time i went without was about 2 months. it started off with little cuts that didn’t even scar now i have really bad scars on my arm. i hate the people who are like well just stop or are just mean. i want to stop.

  • Courtney says:

    I told my mom about my cutting when I was 13, She blew it off like it was nothing. 1 year later I had to go to the hospital to get stiches. The doctor made sure I went to a counselor twice a week because my mom didn’t want me in rehab. It was funny, I thought I wanted help but insted I just played mind games with the counselor and made her think I was fine. I still cut and hate myself for it but i really don’t think i am ready to stop yet… it’s so bad i get sick when i look at my scars. I am hoping one day i will wake up and be better but until then…

  • James says:

    I’ve been cutting for the last four years. It started as a way to deal with my depression and self loathing but now it’s becoming an obsession. I’ve always been very careful to make the cuts light and obscure and keep them well hidden and I wait until the cut heals before I cut again. Usually I cut myself maybe once a month but lately I’ve been having trouble waiting for the cuts to heal. I’ve already cut myself twice in the last two weeks. I’m afraid that I am losing control of my urges to cut. I tried talking to a couple of friends who have also cut but they didn’t help, one just quizzed me about why I cut and how I feel which only made me want to talk about it less. I don’t want to talk to my doctor because he’s a stupid quack who’s never been any help before. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to stop cutting but I’m afraid that I am becoming addicted.

  • Jennifer says:

    I happened upon this website while looking for information on depression, self-mutilation, and suicide for my I-search report. As far as that goes, the facts and statistics are great. Personally, I don’t cut or use any other self injurious outlet, but I have a friend who does. Or has in the past. I’m not sure anymore. I don’t know how to talk to her mainly because I’m afraid I’ll say the wrong thing, and she’ll get mad at me. I’d like to help her in anyway that I can.

  • jaime says:

    I just found out today that my fourteen year old daughter was cutting herself. We have always been able to talk openly about things, and today I almost missed that opportunity. I noticed that she started wearing these tight bracelets on her wrists, and asked her about a small scar I saw. She said it was the cat and I believed her. Today must have been a rough day for her. She asked if we could talk, and she just showed me her arms. I was very supportive, and listened, she cried in my arms a bit, and just let some stuff out. She is a great kid, honor student, pretty, but doesnt believe it. Its hard for her to make friends. She lives with me and her mom (alternate nights) her mom lives five minutes away. She is going through typical fourteen year old girl stuff, and sometimes a very very bad attitude. She feels like she doesnt belong here or there. She has a seven year old sister and three year old brother (from me and her step mom). She said she cant promise she will stop because it is becoming very addictive, but said she will really try. She says it has only been going on for about two weeks. She saw a Therapist for a little while, because she was pulling her hair out, biting her nails, nervously tapping her fingers, now this. Her pulling eventually stopped (i think, i believe her)Nail biting she still does, and finger tapping. I have my own obssesive compulsive issues. I dont know what to ask or what to do. Somebody please advise me.

  • Talia says:

    i waz a cutter for about 3yrz nd i guess it waz bkuz i felt like nobody cared about me nd how i felt about ne thing. my parents would tell me i waz krazie nd that it waz my own fault, which only made me wana cut more nd as a result from that my arms are permanently scarred. i kept doing it though until my sophomore yr of high skl which iz whr i met my best frend the yr b4. he helpd me stop nd he made me feel like more than what my family ever did nd now were frendz 4 life…so my suggestion 2 cutterz iz this, find a friend who helps yu by listenin, nt labeling and shows they care about yu evn wen yu dnt care about urself

  • Kate Spittle says:

    I have been a cutter since I was 10 years old. I started cutting because I was in a lot of pain. I have been abused in one way or another my entire life. It was just a way to get rid of my pain. The problem is that I can’t stop now. I have had this problem for years. I thought that I was over it, but the other day I was sitting in our community center, and someone pulled out a knife and I went crazy. All that I could think about was cutting and how good it would be.

  • tired of everything says:

    I really need some help. Everyone is controling everything in my life and i find my self slipping closer and closer to my razor again. one of my friends told me that my life could be so much worse and its true it can. but i don’t know if i’m just being a baby about everything. i mean i don’t have any like major problems. but my problems are big to me. i just become so scared and depressed sometimes. i really need to talk to someone but no one will liston or cares.

    • stella says:

      hey! It will be ok and i know the feeling! if you want to give me a holler and we can talk! I have the same habit, trying to give it up, but it hard! stellabell013@yahoo.com

    • Lovely says:

      It gets better. I didn’t stop cutting until I was out of high school, I started when I was 13-14 and stopped around 17. I was so stressed all of the time and I couldn’t deal with any of it. I felt like my life was completely spiraling out of control and no one cared. The only way I felt like I could take control was to hurt myself.

      My mom noticed after I had cut myself on/off for 3 years, she finally noticed and she told me I had to stop. I didn’t. I felt like it wasn’t her right to tell me what to do and I was hurt that she didn’t bother to notice before. I was so depressed.

      Finally, my mom took me to the doctor. Not because I was cutting but because I was so anxious all the time. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, my mind was everywhere and I couldn’t concentrate on anything. I wanted and needed help. I was put on Zoloft and that helped put things in perspective. I realized I didn’t want to put anyone through me cutting myself anymore because it was just ruining my relationships, no one could understand and it was so personal I didn’t really want them to anyway.

      You can get help for your depression, you should. Your life can improve. You have to want to try, if you don’t you’ll never stop cutting. Get help if you can’t deal with it anymore. If you need to talk, please email me.

      superhappygiraffe@gmail.com
      ^That goes for anyone who needs someone.

  • Cheyenne says:

    I am 14, and a cutter. I have gone to my school counsiler about my depression I was feeling. That was a complete waste of my time. I hurt all the time, I have thought about “commiting” and came close to it as well. I don’t want to cut anymore because I feel disgusted about myself when I do. I only wonder what my future lover will say,”You’re a freak!” “I can’t believe you were and emo!” “No one’s going to want you because of these disgusting scars all over your body!”
    And, I don’t want to die either, because I come from a religious family and I’m athiest. They always tell me how I will go to hell because I don’t believe in god.
    I live a hard life and I hate that I live it. Ask anyone and I’m the happiest person they ever met, I hate the mask I wear. And now, depression is dragging me down, I’m loosing all of my friends, and I doubt they even care that I hurt myself.

    • Lovely says:

      They don’t worry because of that mask. Stop wearing it. What’s the worse that could happen? Why keep hating yourself for being someone you’re not? I was never happy that way either. Don’t go to your counselor, go to a Dr., get your parents to take you and make sure they know it’s a serious problem.

      I have had several boyfriends who have accepted me after they’ve seen my scars. Anyone who is insensitive enough to make fun of you isn’t worth your time. I am now happily married and my husband doesn’t even notice them. I know it feels hard to believe right now, that it could never happen for you, but it can. Keep up the hope, hopelessness eats away and destroys you.

  • Stephanie says:

    What is the ethical practice for school counselors, regarding notifying a parent, who work with students who used to cut but say they don’t cut any more?

  • Monica says:

    I’ve been cutting for three years now (I started when I was 13) and I’ve become addicted as well as some of the other people who have commented on this. I want to stop, but whenever I try it just doesn’t seem to work >.>

    My cutting isn’t that bad, because I don’t do it often, and I hadn’t done it a lot when I did, but lately it’s been more occurring and there are deeper cuts.

    My parents are no help because last time they found out about it they told me that if they ever saw that again they’d take me out of public school, and put me into private school (I have social anxiety and confrontational problems). If they did that it would be so much worse, and almost anyone who I can talk to about it (meaning the people who know) will either yell at me for doing it, call me stupid for doing it, or just get sad because they don’t want me to do it. I also have a problem with making my friends sad or angry, so that just upsets me more, and yeah. And I can’t talk to anyone else about it because they will all either judge me or tell my parents about it. So basically my issue is, I have no one to talk to about it who won’t tear me apart emotionally.
    So I just keep doing it.

  • KC says:

    I cut for a long time….at first it was just when i was angry. But then it become all the time….I didn’t know all the time why i did. But it felt like it was almost impossible to stop. And the whole learning from peers i dont think is true…cause i do it on my hip. and ya..

  • Ithfifi says:

    First off, welldone on the very useful and well worded infomation. Too many websites make light of such a serious problem, or the texting is very uninformative.

    I started cutting at the age of 11, and have bascially been hooked for 10 years. Through my teens I was sent to a young person’s mental unit as an inpatient because of it. Reading through these posts I see so many simular cases. I would like to sayd “I’ve not cut for x-amount” of time but I have an awful habit of falling back into it.

    Its awful to be accused of wanting attention, I myself never made any attempt to show my cuts or scars off. I know there are many genuine troubled people who do this to cope.. sadly there are some of those out there who will do it for attention, which really gives those who are struggling, often a bad outlook when seeking help.

    My school counsellor (who I saw after 4 years of cutting) was a total gem, She did her best. I’ve seen numerous psychs and doctors about this, and Its something that at 21 now, I am having CBT therapy for.

    I know there are people out there who can break the hold of self harm, So I think we should all try to remember that.

  • alan says:

    I started having problems with cutting when I was 11 or 12. I figured out later it was related to severe sexual abuse that I suffered as a child. I am 47 years old now and I still struggle with this at times as well as a lot of other stuff. I went to counseling as a teen and again in my 30s and again later but none for the past 6 years. Does it ever go away?

  • kaylee says:

    I’m 17 years old, and I started cutting about a year ago. I’ve never been abused or have had anything really bad happen in my life, but this year I just got really really depressed. Cutting was working for me, and it allowed me to function on a regular day-to-day basis without letting anyone know that something was wrong. Eventually my mom found out, and though at the time it was the worst thing ever, it ended up being a good thing. Since then I’ve been to programs at two different psychiatric hospitals, and I am currently going to therapy once a week. I’ve come a long way since then and even went a whole month and two days without cutting, which, for me, felt like the biggest accomplishment. When I stopped cutting, I felt so much better emotionally, but I ended up going back to it and I still don’t know why. Now I am cutting again and I think I’m okay with that. Maybe it’s because it makes me feel like a superhero that I can injure myself without feeling the pain, or because I’m not ready to give up that part of my life yet. I guess my advice for anyone new to SI is to stop now, before you’re so addicted that it seems nearly impossible, and to those who are trying to stop just take it one day at a time and if you’re on a long stretch of no SI, don’t go back to it. I wish I could follow my own advice, but good luck to everyone else out there. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

  • Loren says:

    I first cut a year and a half ago. It was the summer holidays, and I was all alone. I made myself a knife out of scoobies and a blade from my craft knife. I only cut a feew times that summer, then I put the knife away for a year.
    At the beginning of this year I started again, and it got to the point where I would cut every day when I got home from school. I was too scared to cut deeply, so the scars were never really obvious, but I felt really sick the whole time – but I couldn’t stop. I was obsessed.
    Ash Wednesday came and I made a lenten promise never to cut again. I kept that promise – the letter, but not the spirit. I would use my fingernails or penlids to scratch at my wrist. I was addicted. I would leave classes to get my fix.
    Eventually one of my friends caught me and told me to stop. If that had been it, I don’t know if I would have been able to. But then she started crying and my heart started bleeding. And since then I haven’t selfharmed, although there have been many times that i’ve stared at a penlid, WANTING to scratch – but I didn’t. I’ve been ‘clean’ for almost two months now. It’s hard, but it’s manageable. You can beat it. If you feel like you want to cut, try ripping up a piece of paper, or scratching the edge of the desk. ANything to relieve the urge without actually doing somethign to yourself.
    God bless, you can do it…

  • Lena says:

    I started Cutting in April this year. I had dismantled my disposable razor out of boredom one night and ended up cutting. I only cut four times that night, once on my thigh and three times on my ankle. I didnt really see what was so addicting that night but later that week i got upset. I took out the razors and cut eight more times all on my ankle. I kept cutting for a month by the end of it I had 42 cuts on both my ankles. Some part of me kept track writing how many times i cut on my calender hoping my mom would see and stop me. It was late march early june when my mom threatened to clean my room out while i was at school, i hid my razors in a box and brought them to school with me. It was first hour whe my best guy friend was digging through my bag looking for my cellphone when he found the box. He got really mad at me and threw the razors away box and all. I havent cut since then. But lately its been getting really hard not too. I cant even look at my razor without wanting to rip it apart and cut. What should I do?

  • michelle says:

    Do any of you get sooo upset that sometimes you just kinda black out and wake up with cuts every where?? i do somtimes

  • Emma says:

    I cut, I have since I was eleven. I am also beaten by my mother. Today is my fifteenth birthday, I never thought I’d live this long. Last night I was planning on ending my life when one of my friends texted me at one in the morning because “something just didn’t feel right”. He stayed up talking to me until he was sure I’d be okay. He saved my life and he doesn’t even know it. Sometimes all you need is someone to listen. Never underestimate the power you have, anyone can save a life by talking, listening or simply smiling.

  • Jayne says:

    Im 13 and i started cutting because of problems that were happening at home including my parents divorce, watching my mum be sexually abused and also because of a lot I had been exposed to. I ave been cutting myself for almost a year and find it really hard when I think about stopping. I really want to see a school councilor but

  • Adam says:

    When I was 12 years old, i overdosed. I was unconscious for three days, and in that time nobody called to see where i was, nor did anybody in my family open my door to check on me. Thats when it really dawned on me that i wasn’t wanted. After i woke up and saw that my body was completely white with blue lips i decided i had nothing to live for. I took a steak knife from the kitchen, and my sister Jeanette’s guitar string into the bathroom with me, got into the tub, turned on the water and i tore my legs apart. I used the wires to go all the way around my legs, and i took the knife stabbed it into my leg, then dug it through, which left the really big ones on my thighs… Thankfully, i didn’t die, because i realize now that i do actually have thins to live for, and some of the most awesome friends in the world who dont judge me for what i’ve done. I stopped cutting on may 25th. That was when i got a tattoo covering a spot on my arm that was one of my favorite places to cut myself, making it so that i could never cut there again. Things have finally gotten better for me, and i hope that they get better for everyone else in here that’s done something similar.

  • Kevin says:

    I’ve been cutting for 3 years now I think and I hate it when people think cutting is a cry for attention. I am ashamed for what I do but it helps with my pain. Only 2 of my closest friends know I cut and my parents have no idea at all. If you are wondering I cut because of emotional abuse. I’ve been hurt and scarred in my past relationships and I cut to distract myself from the world. I also don’t plan on stopping.

  • Janee says:

    • I’m doing a project on this at school and one of the reasons I decided on this subject, was because I know how it feels. I’ve never cut. I’ve been really close on multiple occasions but what’s always stopped me was the thought of the end result. I wasn’t afraid, just sad about what might happen to me and how it could affect my family and friends. And I have to say I admire you all for putting yourself out there and admitting you have a problem and seeking help. It’s gotta be hard. And the people of the world are so ignorant sometimes. They say things like “why would you cut yourself, its so stupid.” But there’s so much more behind this. And Lena, it just means you’re near a breakthrough. If you ever need to talk, know I’m here. Just respond to this comment.

  • Britt says:

    Hey guys,
    ive been through cutting on and off since i was 9 and now that i have stopped its been a year. now i help my friends with the same problem, i have stopped a few friends from going all the way i know how the feel since i have been there. i know how it feels to be alone but your really not there are a lot of people out there that are willing to listen to you. if guys need someone i can there for you just send me an email
    its cool_cats_1@hotmail.com
    or add me on facebook

  • Gloria says:

    I just turned 22 and i stopped cutting for 2 years but one little thing can trigger it and as hard as i fought it got the better of me and as soon as i did that first cut i was hooked again. yeaa i now have to hide it from my family again but it really does help me.

  • Lindsay says:

    I was cutting my wrists with scissors from march 2010 until december 2010. I started because I was being horribly bullied every day by my brother. i know it probably sounds stupid but every day when I would get home from school my brother would kick, punch, and shove me. He would call me fat, worthless, stupid, and he even once said that if he was me he would kill himself. I really felt like a worthless piece of trash. And the only thing worse than being bullied by a peer is being bullied by a family member who is supposed to love you. I told my mom but she said that it was just harmless sibling rivalry and that its not called “bullying” if it is your sibling being mean to you. I felt like she didnt care and that i was just all alone. I told my best friend about it because she was self-injuring herself too but she wasn’t doing anything horrible (just scratching herself and pushing pencils onto her legs…) so I knew she would understand. She kept my secret til one day in december she told one of my other friends and that friend told my parents. They confronted me and were bawling their eyes out. They begged me not to kill myself and I assured them that it wasn’t that serious so I stopped. What really worries me is that I will start up again because I get urges so many times. Can anybody give me any suggestions on how to make sure I dont start up again cuz everytime I get upset or angry I always get the urge to cut again… I am scared because it is so addicting and is always on my mind.

    • lacey says:

      lindsay dont worry i cut i still do but wat i started doin was gettin a notebook nd writin everythin in there. or if ur brother bullies u again do the same thing to him. u r jus like me i always got bullied at home nd school it was crazy. or go nd punch ur pillow nd pretend its him. good luck linsay

  • Tyla says:

    hi i have been cutting for about a year + im 14 almost 15 how can i tell my bestfriend i am afraid she will over react but i have to tell her so how can i?

    • Ayla says:

      Tyla,

      It’s hard to tell your best friend. I know. But trust me when I say those you mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. I told my best friend and she was the most loving person about it. If she freaks out on you it is because she doesn’t understand why you do it. You are going to have to tell her why. Sadly sometimes you have to be the guinea pig in order to educate someone the first time. If she truly loves you and wants to help you she will be supportive. I was so scared to tell my best friend I was in tears before I even told her. She will understand, but you have to take the initiative and assure her. It is going to be just as scary for her to know that her best friend hurts herself. Tell her why you do it. Confiding in her shows that you genuinely care about her friendship and you’re willing to tell her this because you trust and love her.

  • Natalie says:

    Hi everyone my name is Natalie and I am now 16 and have been cutting for about 5 years. I know cutting is bad for me and the people I know who self-injure I encourage them to get help. My dad has tried to get me help but for some reason he gave up. I don’t know what to do, but I’m sure I’ll be fine. The support from my boyfriend is pretty much all I need. I haven’t cut in a few months but did want too a few days ago but then I realized that life is a blessing. It’s the best thing anyone can have, why risk it? Why risk dying in a painful way? I think to myself and wonder what would happen if I died and I cry about it all the time. I think about all of the people I would hurt. My boyfriend especially and it kills me. I don’t want the people around me to suffer because of my death. Sometimes I feel like I’m not important in anyone’s life but I am. I have a purpose in life just as you all do. Everyone has a purpose in life and everyone has someone who loves them. I know I’m addicted to cutting and I hope to be able to get rid of this addiction but I know it’s going to take time. But at least I’ve learned how to control it instead of it controlling me.

  • Ay says:

    My name is Ay and I’ve been cutting for about seven years. I’m Sixteen [almost Seventeen] years old.

    I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I honestly don’t. I’m not suicidal [anymore. I've survived 10 attempts. I honestly shouldn't be alive.]. I don’t want to die. I enjoy life too much and want to see the future. However, my cutting has to stop. I know it does and I’m aware of this. But I can’t stop. I honestly can’t. I’ve been doing it for so long. I don’t know how to deal with stress and my emotions properly. I don’t know how to relieve that pressure. I think you may know what I’m refering to.
    I’m addicted.
    I’ve smoked pot. I’ve indulged in Alcohol. I’ve smoked ciggarrets. All of these actions enough times where I SHOULD have been dependent on them. I never was. It’s the cutting. That release afterwards.

    I’ve thrown out my knives and my razors. I’ve given them to people I trust. Yet, I always come back to it. In a reach for help, I wrote my Dad a letter about it. It’s been four months. He acts like I never said a thing. My friends… I feel like they’ve given up on me. I don’t trust the school. I don’t have the money to hire a counselor.

    I don’t know if any of this makes sense, but in short, I’m a self injurer and I don’t know how to help myself. I’ve tried everything from hot wax to a rubber band. It doesn’t help. I just don’t know what to do.
    This is me reaching out for help. I don’t know what to do.

    • Ay says:

      By the way, I no longer indulge in drugs and alcohol.

    • Sarah says:

      Hello,
      Congratulations on throwing out/giving away your knives and razors, and for posting this! I think thats the first step to stopping! Now. the next step is telling somoene. The most likely reason your Dad hasnt replied to your letter is because he is worried for you, and doesnt know how to approach the situation. However, a proffensial physcologist or counsellor, even your local doctor, will help you stop feeling the urge to cut! :)

      The longest I’ve gone without cutting is one month and five days. At first this was extremely hard, because over time I had relied on pain to stop me hurting. I used the http://au.reachout.com/ (I’m from australia) website, and to substitute cutting I found that holding ice against my thigh for about 5 minutes would burn a red mark which I liked, but then it would fade overnight so I could wear a bikini to the beach the next day. Until today I’ve had this constant urge to cut myself, even in classes i cant hold scissors because I’m scared I will take them to the toilets..
      But, as well as ice i’ve realised that if I put a lackey band on my wrist and flick it every time i feel an urge to cut, my urges slowly went away.. to near nothing!
      I’ve decided to tell my year co-ordinator and my school counsellor(whom I’ve seen a few times before, but never mentioned self harming.) and I think that telling ANYONE will help you, so try telling a trusted friend that you want to stop but you need their help. Or. you could use online chat websites to talk anonymously to people.

      Hope this ESSAY has helped haha xo

    • jkjasmine says:

      if u want you can email me at jkjasmineluv@gmail.com

      ive struggled at LOT with cutting and ik what its like to feel like your dad doesnt care even tho you have told him how bad the situation is and ik what its like to have people give up on you. if you want to just vent to me or want advice just go ahead. i dont mind :)

  • lacey says:

    i cut myself nd im 15 ive been cuttin for 3 years my mom knows my mom thinks i stopped i c my friends nd my lil brother cuttin it makes me cut even more. but sometimes u cant help it bc ur addicted to it

  • jkjasmine says:

    I struggled with SI since i was at least 7. I have struggled with a cutting disorder since I was about 12. What’s strange in my case is that it was not a learned behavior. I was homeschooled and very sheltered. I had no idea that other ppl hurt themselves to cope with negative emotions!! I felt so alone because I knew i wasnt “normal” and so I didnt tell anyone until I was 16. There have been so many nights when I cry myself to sleep. I think about the abuse that I went through when I was younger (mostly) and I feel like its all my fault somehow. I have hated myself so intensly for so long and it drains my energy so that im always tired. It scared me when I cut a week ago. I had just went 10 months trying to and succeeding at ignoring the urge to cut and… yeah i messed up. but what scared me a little was that when i “relapsed” i wasnt in any emotional distress. it always shocks me how addicted i actually am to this behavior. i do it for FUN. thats sick but its true. Normally I would cut about 4 times in a single sitting. last week i did it 51 times in a sitting. and when my bf found out i relapsed he left me immediately and refuses to talk to me at all (which i understand becuz the behavior rly scares him). but it was at that point i finally decided to stop cutting… like really stop. when i had went 10 months without cutting before it was only so that I wouldnt get in trouble and have friends and family harass me. Now, i have my own personal reasons. i realized that i dont want to end up being a mother and having my kids ask what the cuts are from on my arm. i want to be a good role model for them. and i dont want to get married and hav my husband be embarrassed of me or feel like crap because he cant get me to stop. All that is huge motivation for me to stop. So ive made a list of different ways i can handle stress and urges and im going to stick to it. im going to have friends help make sure im doing ok by keeping me accountable and checking my wrist and arm to see if im lying about my progress.

    Its nice… during those 10 months i went without cutting i still considered myself a cutter because of the intense desires i had to battle every single day sometimes for hours and hours. but now… even tho it was just a week ago that i cut… i officially do not consider myself a cutter. this time i truly want to quit and i have reasons. my #1 goal now is to help other people get over their addictions too. I want to be a counselor soooooo badly (and i have for a long time… im 17 btw). anyone needing support or that needs to vent or wants advice, ANYTHING! u can email me at jkjasmineluv@gmail.com

  • 7Kaitlyn says:

    I have been cutting/burning for years now. I am 17, and I started Self-harming when I was just 12. Though my emotional pain started around age 7. I remember back at age 7 wanting nothing more then to die. But then finally, before it was too late, I found physical ways of dealing with my emotional pain.
    I don’t like harming myself. I mean, I do; but I see how badly it hurts my mom. When she see’s my scars, she gets teary and I just feel bad… So I’ve been on a long road to recovery. How?
    1. Cut back. — I used to burn every day. But then I kept cutting it back. I started by only burning every other day. And eventually I got it cut back to once every three days.
    2. Switch it up. – - I changed from burning to bruising. Which, I know, still isn’t good. But it helped. It isn’t as bad as burning. So I started bruising. Granted, I occasionally do relapse, and burn myself. But it is getting better.
    These were two things I’ve done to help myself. I’ve gotten better. I keep progressing, and I can tell its making my mom and close friends happy. So I won’t give up.

    If you are fighting this fight, I want you to know one thing:
    I LOVE YOU. And you are WORTH so much!! You DESERVE to get away from the darkness that creeps into your world. You DESERVE to be happy.
    God bless all of you. You are beautiful.
    Love always,
    Kait

    Email me for support:
    kaitlyn.taylor123@gmail.com

  • Katie says:

    Hey guys, I’ve been reading through all these comments, and I have to say…they broke my heart. I’ve dabbled in cutting; but not a whole lot. And guess what I’ve discovered-it may feel good for a little while, but it doesn’t last. The only permenant hope I know of is in Jesus Christ. I want you to know that I’m praying right now for you guys…that’s you’d find Him.

  • Kailyssa says:

    I Started Cuttinq When I Was 10 I Am Almost 14 Now . All The Stress I Go
    Throuqh With All The Drama In And Out Of School Makes Me Cut . Ive Been Throuqh Alot I Want To But I Dont Want To Cut People Talk Alot Of Crap About Me Behind My Baq They Say Im Emo They Say I Just Want Attention They Call Me A Poser They Dont Know What I Go Through To Do This I Remember Earlier This Year Gettinq Called Down To The Office And The Principle Tellinq Me That Someone Told On Me He Let Me Tell Him My Problems He Made Me Promise Him.I Wouldnt Cut Anymore But I Stopped Cuttinq On My Wrists And Started On My Leqs I Only Wear Pants But Nkw Im In Volleyball And I Have To Wear Shorts So I Started Cuttinq On My Stomach My Boyfriend Is Here For Me But I Cant Talk Ti Him About My Problems Itll Just Be Too Awkward My Cousin Is Here For Me.Also But I Havent Tild Her About The Cuttinq On The Stomach Shell Break Down ); I Feel Bad But I Dont Know What To Do Anymore My Dad Isnt Even In My Life My Mom Beats Me And I Have Noone ToTalk To .

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  • Liz says:

    I Been cutting since 5th grade. Its been three years since I first started and i just stopped about a week ago if that. The main reason why I stopped is because it was hurting others around me and myself. I hate the scars. I have to hide them. when i go out of town i have to wear long sleeves no matter how how it is. Its addicting and as much as I try i will always have that one day out of the blue where i will make that mistake again.

  • Alisha says:

    I was a cutter for eleven years starting when i was twelve. I too truley understand what it feels like to have this sad scarey addiction. I didnt want to stop either and for a long time i didnt. The longer i was consumed by this illness the more severe and dangerous it became. After being in and out of hospitals both medical and psyhciatric and years of therapy i actually wanted to stop but at this point i felt like i couldnt. So i continued to work hard with several people who were dedicated to helping me and now i havent cut myself in fifteen months and still counting. I know that once you realize what your doing to your precious body and you realize that you are precious and deserve better, youll be able to stop. Its not hopeless and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

  • Colin says:

    I’ve stopped cutting for about 2 months now. Every single day i want to do it again. I was caught by my parents, but still have yet to do anything about it. I want to stop, but then again i don’t. Will this desire ever go away? It’s driving me crazy….

  • Kaylin Shackelford says:

    PEOPLE CARE…
    Hi, my name is Kaylin, I’m 17 years old, and I used to cut. Trust me, my parents (especially my Mom) didn’t and still don’t understand…my Mom thinks I should never tell anybody that I used to and that I should be ashamed of it, BUT since I have told people my story, and how I was able to recover, I have been able to raise so much awareness. I have gotten so much comforst and positivity. I have become such a happier person and have completely moved forward in my life!
    I hope everyone of you grows and become somebody amazing one day! Remember somebody CARES and LOVES you and always wants the best for you! ♥

  • Scott says:

    Hi Anne:

    The best advice anyone can give you is to see your medical doctor who can refer you to a specialist who will help you end your cutting.

    Scott

  • sarah says:

    i cut. i have been for several months. im 15 now but i feel so pathetic when i do because you see all these stories about people being abused and bullied and me? none of that. i just dont like my weight and the way i look. i have been cutting for 10 months and only gone one without cutting.

  • Kristalee says:

    I know all about cutting too well. I was a cutter for around 22 years and now I am an advocate.. It is so hard at times for me to cope healthy but I have no choice knowing there are others who don’t have anyone; and i want to be their someone.. Please join my cause and raise awareness.. One voice, One Story… Can save many lives and show others that they aren’t alone. Hugs, Kristalee xoxo ♥

  • Anna says:

    I am a former cutter. The only thing that I can say honestly helped me was having my friends there. They made it easier to live day by day. Its not going to be easy but you are needed somewhere. If you need help contact me at davis.anna87@gmail.com I will help however I can.

    Also I am writing an essay to get schools to be more open about this issue and was wondering if you would be interested in helping get it out. No one that I know, adult wise, will talk about it. Start in your schools if you can.

    For all of you who still cut there are people out there who care. You are so loved. You may not know it but you are. Please lets get this out so that we can get help to those who need it.

  • Kyrra says:

    I know all towel what you’re talking about. People don’t like to admit it- but cutting is an addiction. Like smoking, or drinking… I know, because self harm is my addiction… It’s bred from self hatred deeper than people understand, and the understanding people think they have feels so much like pity that its frustrating and is why it’s kept a secret. I haven’t been caught yet, and I don’t want to go into recovery. (I’m sorry, I just can’t handle that right now) but… I guess I’m just putting this out there..

    To everyone else who commented on this and who self harms stay strong it gets better <3

  • Stacy says:

    I used to cut, drink, smoke, do drugs, and almost committed suicide.Trust me people I went through a really long process from counseling to family therapy you name it and I’ve been there. Well, you may feel like there is a dark hole or some kind of void that you can only fill with all of these evil dark things to take the pain away. I thought that by doing these things then I would actually be happy again or just feel good about myself. None of it helped though because it was only a relieving feeling for a short amount of time then afterwards I felt just as miserable as I had before then. You may think that its the right thing to do and, you may not want to stop it and you may like it because it makes you who you are but, deep down inside past the pain and that big dark hole and all of the hurt you have caused yourself you know that there is true happiness. Agree with me or Disagree with me but, just think about your future about who you will influence and your children. Stay strong people and try your best to stop yourself before you do these things again. I will pray for you. :)

  • Katrina says:

    I first cut myself at the age of ten… I’m turning 12 on the 22 of Jan. I only share what happens with my best friend Lauren, she also cuts. I usually use a paper clip or pencil sharpener blade. I don’t want my mom to know, mostly because she is almost the entire reason why I cut. I probably will never talk to a physchiatrist, counselor, or anyone else. It is kind of embarrassing. I usually wear bracelets to try to hind my scars, but they always slip off.. The first time I cut, I just wanted to find out how sharp a razor blade was. But now it makes me feel slightly happier.

  • Kyliegh says:

    It’s not an easy thing to stop. I know. I’ve relapsed a few times, but I’m proud to say that I’ve now been clear for a year. It’s addictive.. But what helped me to stop was to think about all the people other than myself that I was hurting by harming myself. The one and only time that I’ve ever seen my dad cry was when he found out.
    Anyone out there who is cutting or burning or harming yourself in any way, remember this. Stay strong. It’s not easy. You wanna give up and give in. But the reward is worth the fight for it. You are BEAUTIFUL! You are loved. And you are worth so much more than what the scars give you. They don’t define you.(:

  • yeam says:

    I’m 19. I started cutting about 4 months ago (I was 18 then! :P ) I stopped when my mom found out…she seems to have forgotten about it. She doesn’t care anymore. And I miss the feeling…I think she hid every sharp thing in my bathroom, So I had to cut my wrist with a pencil today… I can’t stop thinking about this and the feeling it had and I actually don’t want my cut marks to fade away… (they are on my left wrist, pretty obvious place and they are about 5 of them still visible and reddish and one of them is puffy now.) I think people think It’s nothing or I’m doing this for attention. and that maybe true, but there are other ways of seeking attention…what the f is wrong with people telling me I don’t have the balls to kill myself….I don’t want to kill myself, I want to punish myself for being this crappy…I’m sick of people not caring…I’m sick of feeling pathetic… I want that feeling after cutting back…control, power, blood running out in silence and calmly…I AM CRAZY, I DON’T want help…

  • Nicole says:

    I started cutting myself when I was 14. My parents caught me on my 15 birthday. I went to therapy and faked getting better so that i didn’t have to listen to them try to understand me. As soon as therapy ended I began cutting again. Only this time I did it where no one could see it. I just recently stopped cutting. I probably wouldn’t have stopped this time if it wasn’t for the fact that i was so upset one day and ready to cut deep enough to where i would bleed out that i forgot to lock the bathroom door while i was in the shower. my sister came in and heard me crying so she looked in the tub and i was sitting on the bottom of the tub in my clothes barley awake crying and loosing alot of blood. they took me to the hospital and they wouldnt let me leave till they could tell i was 100% better. its a daily struggle everyday not to go back to that. but after seeing that i had made my dad who never in his life has cried was crying i cant put him through that again.

  • Melanie says:

    Okay. So I’m 13 and I just recently started cutting and I thought I could control it. But is it weird I find the blood addicting? At home I get called worthless and useless and stuff. So if your a parent reading this please don’t ever I mean EVER call your child worthless or fat. It hurts a lot. And at school people think I worship satan and they call me “an emo fag” and I have tried to commit suicide once:( I even went on the website to talk to people who don’t judge you to give advice and make you feel better and the person disconnected the conversation in the first minute! I just felt so hopeless and I don’t know what I’m gonna do in the future and stuff. My parents don’t care and at school even the teachers hate me! I just had to rant I’m sorry for wasting your time. Okay I’m done. </3 sorry

  • Freya says:

    I started cutting in the 7th grade officially.. but I remember scratching myself when I was little to punish myself for making my brother cry. My mom saw then but she just told me not to do that anymore. I didn’t cut because I new someone who did or thought it was cool… I did it because I wanted to punish myself and teach myself not to like someone Im not supposed to like. Back then I was so confused and everyone was very judgmental in fact everyone still is… I started liking this girl who was five years my age and I didn’t know how to handle it.. I grew up learning that being gay/lesbian was a sin.. not something im supposed to be.. so I kept it to myself feeling absolutely horrible.. I couldn’t stop liking her so I decided to take matters into my own hands and cut myself until I stopped liking her… It took 2 years and I did stop liking her.. I told my friend back then I was cutting and all she said was that she was scared I would cut her…if i cut my self i will cut someone else.. that hurt so bad to hear that. I stopped cutting for 2 months then when I got to high school I spiraled out of control.. I realized cutting was my way out.. my addiction.. my best friend… I could not live without it.. Everything that triggered any emotion in me I ended up cutting… everyday probably until people saw my arm and started talking about it.. I think my mom finally saw and all she does every time i cut is look at me in disgust and say you think your life is so bad to cut… I can show you what its like to hate your life.. Thats not what I need to hear. My boyfriend back then tried to help me stop but I just could not stop.. he would cut his self in front of me to make me upset… my best friend back then would also get really mad at me and dig her fingers into my cuts and say if I didn’t want it to hurt i shouldn’t of done it… Everyone hated that part about me and no one excepted who I was by myself.. I couldn’t trust anyone because as soon as I wasn’t with my boyfriend he went to my house while i wasn’t there and told my mom i was cutting again… In order to still be able to cut I started cutting on my hips… I did not want to stop. the razor, staple, bobby pin, safety pin… they were my best friends.. always there for me no matter what never judging me, leaving me, or forcing me to do anything..just there for me. I sat in the bathroom alone cutting at school..I just cant stop. I did stop for probably a year but I got this job that made me feel like I had no life.. even though I acted happy and everyone was nice to me and i had a home and loving family… I still was unhappy and I was thinking about killing myself.. I ended up quitting work and felt depressed even more for never being able to finish anything.. commit to doing something… well except cutting of course. I blocked everyone out of my life I dont talk to anyone now except my therapist I went to see after I quit work… she says that I might be better off seeing another therapist she says its always a struggle with me.. after I told her about my addiction to cutting and how much i love the blood/ pain, that Ive been cutting for over seven years.. she looked at me and said I dont know how to help you..:( Im so confused now should I still be trying to talk to her?? I made a picture out of my blood and gave it to her last time.. Im not sure she takes me seriously bc she doesn’t see the part of me when Im alone by myself she sees my persona i put out into the world.. Im trying to show her more of me.. but my mom is saying I need to hurry up and get it over with.. I feel crazy like maybe nothings wrong.. im wasting money and peoples time…. my mom saw my cuts a few weeks ago and said nothing just looked disgusted.. my therapist knows im suicidal but says your always suicidal though.. like no big deal.. Im so alone and scared and feel like when I reach the point I wont be able to call on anyone bc ill remember that they really dont care.. My mood is all over the place and Im overeating now too so that makes me feel even worse.. Im scared of the world of everyone.. I dont feel like anyone really likes me and that I don’t deserve any love from anyone. I feel like im empty with no soul. Ive been told im just a drama queen though.. but this is how I feel and i have felt this feeling for 7 years… is that normal?? how do I move on like a normal person?? how do I just deal with it? I wont be able to take 7 more years of this.. the thoughts only get louder and louder.. there feels to be no way out.. Im in one big trap.

  • Raven says:

    I started cutting in the 5th grade. I started to smoke in the 8th grade. I started to make myself puke to feel better about myself in 9th grade. I started overdosing on drugs in the 9th grade. I am in the 10th grade now. I still cut and overdose and puke. I only cut in places that no one will see. I started cutting when I was raped and I couldn’t tell anyone because this person was my cousin and he threatened my life. I had nowhere to turn. Everyone else around me told me that if I was to ever cut or anything, they would think about putting me in the looney bin. I couldn’t handle that. None of my friends understand, because only about 4 of them actually know. They tell me I shouldn’t do it, and that I can just talk to them about it, but I can’t. All I see is judgement in their eyes. I force a smile every single day I wake up. Some days, I just wish I wouldn’t wake up. That something magnificent happened to me while I was sleeping, and I just died. I want to seek help, but I don’t want to go somewhere and hear the same things told to me. I want to go somewhere and have someone tell me what I am doing is normal… that I can be normal. I just want to feel accepted.

    “The one’s that look soo innocent, that are friends with everyone and always wear a smile, are sometimes the ones who have scars upon scars all over, and are the ones who have the hatred for the world hid behind forced smiles.”

  • Alyssa says:

    I used to cut my self and then i meet my boyfriend and he saw what i was doing and he graved my wrists and said do not do that and all i said was that it made me feel better and he said no just stop and he always picked me up and brout me in a different room with no sharp objects around and he would sit there with me until i feel asleap and then he said that he would saty there to make sure that i did not cut my self again and anow i no longer cut my self with the help of my boy friend

  • alexx says:

    I know the feeling to well, its like I want to stop but I can’t. I just keep thinking that it is going to help everything get better even though I know that it won’t. Its like I’m adiccted. Just be calm and take your anger out on something els, try throwing something at the wall or hitting a punch bag (or pillow) if that doesn’t work then take your anger out on a piece of paper, be creative and draw how you feel. I’m not saying that you have to stop because I do know what your going through, I’m just saying TRY to bercause cutting yourself won’t get you anywere. Please just give it a go, for me! Xxxxx

  • Angela says:

    Hardest thing to ever stop. I hate it but love it so badly. Too attached to it. I don’t know how I’m like a month clean. Maybe due to fear of being questioned… I constantly need to mask my arm and it’s just really sad. I hope my parents never find out. It would break their hearts. Or not even phase them which would contribute. I don’t wanna shatter their happy image of me. Living up to expectation is so un realistically difficult and disappointing for me.

  • Jade says:

    I guess I’m part of the 50% that started at age 14. I’m 17 now, and only one of my friends knows. At first I was careful not to cut deeply enough to leave permanent scars, but I’ve long since thrown that caution to the wind. I don’t think of myself as addicted, but how would I know? I’ve never tried to stop…

  • Sam says:

    I want to be happy, but I don’t want to stop cutting. Cutting makes me happy.

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