Discipline Guidelines and Parent Child Relationships

2008 January 28 by: Scott

Once you have stated your position and the child attacks that position, do not keep defending yourself. Just restate the position once more and then stop responding to the attacks.

Look for gradual changes in behavior. Don’t expect too much. Make positive comments when the behavior is coming closer to the desired goal.

Remember that your behavior serves as a model for your children’s behavior.

When you are disciplining the child and the other parent enters the room, that other person should not step in on the argument in progress. Discuss this option with your partner before you implement this technique.

Reward desirable behavior as much as possible by verbal communication, positive touch or something that builds the relationship (i.e. making cookies together).

Both parents (when possible) should have an equal share in the responsibility of discipline as much as possible.

Never disagree about discipline techniques in front of the children with another adult. Go to a private room and team together to come up with possible solutions.

Strengthening the child-parent relationship is possible even when the situation with the child is not positive. Consistency is key. Love, of course, is the answer!