Child do not want us to judge them; especially in a manner that compares them to other children. Successful parenting involves developing a relationship that includes open, positive conversations with your child.
Ask your child how he or she feels about the situation that you are discussing before you state your feelings or present your opinions.
Strive to keep your voice tone neutral and accepting. Be descriptive, rather than critical.
Descriptive example: “I heard you swear, what’s going on?”
Judgmental example: "People swear because they are not smart enough to select a better word.”
Descriptive example: “I see your wearing that beer shirt again. “The school does not allow it and neither do I.”
Judgmental example: “Kids who wear shirts like that turn into drug addicts.”
Try not to jump to conclusions. Strive to get all the facts before you come to a conclusion. Be open to the possibility that your assumptions may be wrong.
When possible and appropriate, use humor. Avoid sarcasm. Example: “That shirt would look good on a beer vendor at the Yankee’s game. It’s not appropriate for you.”
Let your child know that you are trying not to judge him or her, but be helpful. Let your child know that it’s your job as a parent to guide and change inappropriate behaviors. It's important to keep you child's developmental stage in mind as you make suggestions or correct behaviors. Children entering the middle school years often become more critical and judgmental of others and their own behaviors.
Childhood Stress, Teens February 10th, 2008
Child do not want us to judge them; especially in a manner that compares them to other children. Successful parenting involves developing a relationship that includes open, positive conversations with your child.
Ask your child how he or she feels about the situation that you are discussing before you state your feelings or present your opinions.
Strive to keep your voice tone neutral and accepting. Be descriptive, rather than critical.
Descriptive example: “I heard you swear, what’s going on?”
Judgmental example: "People swear because they are not smart enough to select a better word.”
Descriptive example: “I see your wearing that beer shirt again. “The school does not allow it and neither do I.”
Judgmental example: “Kids who wear shirts like that turn into drug addicts.”
Try not to jump to conclusions. Strive to get all the facts before you come to a conclusion. Be open to the possibility that your assumptions may be wrong.
When possible and appropriate, use humor. Avoid sarcasm. Example: “That shirt would look good on a beer vendor at the Yankee’s game. It’s not appropriate for you.”
Let your child know that you are trying not to judge him or her, but be helpful. Let your child know that it’s your job as a parent to guide and change inappropriate behaviors. It's important to keep you child's developmental stage in mind as you make suggestions or correct behaviors. Children entering the middle school years often become more critical and judgmental of others and their own behaviors.
Child do not want us to judge them; especially in a manner that compares them to other children. Successful parenting involves developing a relationship that includes open, positive conversations with your child.
Ask your child how he or she feels about the situation that you are discussing before you state your feelings or present your opinions.
Strive to keep your voice tone neutral and accepting. Be descriptive, rather than critical.
Descriptive example: “I heard you swear, what’s going on?”
Judgmental example: "People swear because they are not smart enough to select a better word.”
Descriptive example: “I see your wearing that beer shirt again. “The school does not allow it and neither do I.”
Judgmental example: “Kids who wear shirts like that turn into drug addicts.”
Try not to jump to conclusions. Strive to get all the facts before you come to a conclusion. Be open to the possibility that your assumptions may be wrong.
When possible and appropriate, use humor. Avoid sarcasm. Example: “That shirt would look good on a beer vendor at the Yankee’s game. It’s not appropriate for you.”
Let your child know that you are trying not to judge him or her, but be helpful. Let your child know that it’s your job as a parent to guide and change inappropriate behaviors. It's important to keep you child's developmental stage in mind as you make suggestions or correct behaviors. Children entering the middle school years often become more critical and judgmental of others and their own behaviors.
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