Divorce is difficult. There are no easy answers. It’s difficult managing your own emotions and handling your own personal matters, let alone handling your child’s concerns. Below are some coping factors that you may want to consider while helping you child. It’s always important to take into account your child’s age, child development, level of maturity and emotional stability before you discuss the follow with your child.
- Is it possible for both parents meet with the child together?
Having the ability to meet together while discussing any issue, regarding your child, shows that you can still work together for the betterment of the child. The child sees that you are civil, respectful and sharing your concerns together.
- Tell your child that you love him or her.
It is common for children to question their parents love during this challenging time.
- Tell you child that he or she is not at fault.
A large percentage of children believe that they are to blame for the divorce. Tell the child that it is not his or her fault.
- Tell your child that you will be there for him or her. You will listen.
Some children see you hurting so they not want to share their feelings and cause more pain. They may even tell you that “I am doing fine,” when he is feeling “not so fine!”
- Be honest! Be sincere.
Do not make promises that you can not deliver on!
