Does Your Child Hate School?
It’s not uncommon for a child to say, “I hate school!” This comment may come after a child has successfully completed several years of school with no complaints. So, what happened? Why does any child come to the point where they claim that they do not want to go to school? This article reviews some of the reason why children all the sudden hate school and what parents can do to change the child’s opinion.
Why Some Children Hate School
- The child has no friends.
- The child feels that he or she does not fit in.
- The child is being teased or bullied.
- The child finds it difficult to socialize.
- The child is not experiencing success in academic classes.
- The child is bored.
- The child has a medical condition such as anxiety or depression.
- The child does not feel connected to at least one school staff member.
- The child’s parent(s) seldom say positive things about school.
Talk with your child. Really listen! Ask your child to name the best parts of their day and the worst parts. Ask your child to: name some friends he or she eats lunch with, who their favorite teacher is, who teases, who praises. Be objective and caring. Try to avoid putting words in your child’s mouth.
Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher, school counselor or school social worker. Discuss: Grades, behavior, friends, medical concerns and your child’s school history. Keep the meeting positive! Seek advice and help. Avoid putting the teachers on the defense.
Is your child in middle school or junior high? These are typically difficult years in school for many children. Girls are often more verbal and begin to play “odd girl out” game. Boys are generally more physical and grab, pull and laugh at each other. Begin to recognize developmental stages as your child goes progresses through school. The school counselor or school psychologist will help you with more information.
Let your medical doctor know your child’s concerns. During your child yearly physical exams, let your family doctor or pediatrician know that your child “hates school.” Your doctor may provide more helpful solutions.
Finally, it’s important for parents to speak positively about school and the importance of education. If you had a bad experience attending school, try to keep it to yourself unless your child can learn something positive from your experience.
Go to: Ask A Counselor if you have more specific questions regarding your child’s school experience.