“I hate my life.  My so-called girlfriends gossip about me.  One week I’m in the group, the next week I’m out.  Some of my friends hate me because I like other kids.  I’m sick of this!

Female Middle School Student

Why don’t we have a female president yet in this great nation called the United States?  Come on!  Forty-four presidents and not one female president has been voted into office?  Only one female candidate has ever been on a presidential ticket.   Some state sources indicate that 68% of the women voters’ report that they will not vote for a female President.  Why? 

When asked this question many women reported that they do not trust women.  When asked “why?”, many women reported that they had poor experiences while growing up with female companions duirng their middle and high school years. 

The “mean girl” syndrome, as it is often called, has been the topic of several teen movies that  highlight how young females stop at nothing to be mean toward one another while striving to keep their unhealthy relationships intact.   

For this reason alone, we need to take a good look at how our daughters interact with their female peers.  This article explores female relationships during pre-teen and teenage years. It will also provide some basic developmental information as to why our daughters no longer come to us for help, guidance and influence.  Parents must be aware of the information provided and avoid making comments such as:

“This is what all girls do.  We saw girls doing this when we grew up.  All girls  girls gossip and this is what girls do.” 

These statements and the thinking that leads to these conclusions will only harm our daughters, and sadly, negatively affect them for the rest of their lives.