Counseling Question from Parent of a 15 Year-Old Daughter: Smoking Pot and Dating
Background Information:
My 15 year old daughter is in counceling right now because she was suspended from school for smoking pot. She used to sneak out at 
night to go with her friends. I am a single parent and she has no contact with her father. The boy i’ll be talking about is the one she snuck out with twice to spend time with.
Counseling Question:
My daughter’s boyfriend moved to a different town and once a week either I take her over there or he comes over. I don’t believe in dating until your’e 16 but i know she will sneak out if I don’t allow her to see him. Now she has it in her head that she wants him to spend the night. Her in her room, and he on the couch. I am against this and she is extremely angry with me that I won’t allow it. We argue over this all the time. At least I let her see him when he comes over or she goes over. I made the mistake a while back of letting my then 16 year old daughter’s boyfriend sleep on our couch because he didn’t have a way home and now my 15 year old believes that her boyfriend should be allowed to spend the night. Please help me because we’re arguing toooo much over this.
ScottCounseling Parent Counselor Response
Dear Concerned Parent:
Thanks for coming to ScottCounseling.com with your parenting questions:
I want to begin by complimenting you for allowing your daughter to meet with a counselor to sort out her problems. You and your daughter are not alone with the behaviors that she’s displaying. Make sure that you meet alone with her counselor to receive his or her recommendations.
I want you to read the following ScottCounseling.com parenting articles:
I also want you to look into this great parenting program:
The Total Transformation Program
Many parents have used this program with tremendous success.
Some questions for you:
1) Is there a dad involved in your daughters life?
2) Is she involved in school activities: sports, plays, music etc.
3) Is she involved in out of school activities: volunteer clubs, religious programs, youth activities
4) Does her counseling include a depression and mental health assessment?
Please get back to me with your answers.
Scott
ScottCounseling.com
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