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Children with positive self-esteem... Your child's self-esteem belongs to him or her. No one can magically build your child's self-esteem. The concept of "self-esteem" has been greatly research by child behavior specialist and child psychology experts. No matter what research study you read, the majority conclude that there is" evident that programs to foster self-esteem can serve as a "social vaccine" in reducing the incidence of many such problems" (National Association For Self-Esteem, 2004) and "Children’s self-esteem can be raised by parenting interventions..." (Jesph Rowntree Foundation, 2001). Below are some practical parenting tips that will allow your child to build his or her own self-esteem. 9 Signs That Your Child Has Poor Self-Esteem

1. Your child gives up easily or quits soon after starting an activity.
2. Your child seldom give him or herself credit for doing something good.
3. Your child often makes negative statements about him or herself.
4. Your child often makes negative statements about others.
5. You child avoids trying something new.
6. Your child often makes excuses.
7. Your child often blames others when something does not go right.
8. Your child makes statements that the worst is about to happen.
9. Your child says he or she is not “in the popular group.”

Some Solutions To Help Your Child Build Positive Self-Esteem

• Encourage your child to pay compliments to him or herself by modeling that behavior. Say, “I like the way you passed the ball to others during the game.” Rather than, “Not everyone can be a good soccer player.” Encourage your child to use positive self-talk. Example: “ I like myself.” “I am good at _______.”
• Catch your child doing something good. Let your child know what you saw or heard.
• For every one negative statement you make toward your child, you have to share ten positive comments or compliments. Keep track. As parents, we may not realize how many negative statements we make.
• Begin to share with your child how unique he or she is. Share things like: “You are the only boy I see that smiling all the time.” “You clean the dishes better than anyone I know. How do you do this?” “Why is it so easy for you to help me cook. Not many kids your age can do that.”
• Help your child to set goals. Teach your child that it’s not uncommon for a person who sets a goal not to reach or achieve the goal the first time. “It’s o.k. to fail, but it’s not o.k. to quit.” When your child fails, help him or her to set a new goal. Make sure the goal is realistic and achievable. Don’t set goals that are overwhelming. Set small goals first. Work on bigger goals after success is achieved.
• Help your child to become involved in activities, projects, programs and other life events that he or she can achieve success. These activities may include painting, playing an instrument, doing volunteer work, completing chores. Teaching and then allowing your child to successfully complete an activity will help your child to build his or her self-esteem.

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