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Do you have a demanding child?

It’s not unusual for Children to begin to make some kind of demanding remarks between the ages of two and four years of age. This behavior is often a test given by a child to test parent limits and boundaries. Children who are demanding often are seeking control or may be facing some stress in their life. Parents who avoid stopping a child’s inappropriate demands… Continue Reading

 Do your children know the rules for the road?

School bus drivers have set rules that the school children must follow for the safety of all who ride the bus.  Elementary students are taught these rules during the school day.  If a student does not follow these rules, they are told that they may have to have an assigned seat, be suspended from the bus or be expelled permanently from the bus.  Parents may train their children with similar rules.  Here are some parenting tips:

· Sit down with your child and let them know the purpose of riding in a car.  “Cars are used to get us safely from our home to where we want to be.”  Ask the child these questions:
1. What… Continue Reading

There are hundreds of ways to discipline your child. Long before any disciplining takes place with your child, an unconditional love needs to be established. Some are simple and some are not hard to do at all. Before any parent can begin to implement any successful discipline strategies, a relationship and rapport needs to be established between the parent and child. The child facing discipline for inappropriate behavior needs to know and feel that the parent loves him or her and that discipline is part of parenting love. Once the child knows that he or she is loved and cared for, discipline does not become an act of hate, but an act of teaching… Continue Reading

Child behavior that becomes difficult or challenging needs to be addressed in a manner that keeps the parent mindful of what is occurring in the child’s life. Was their a death, trauma, change or surprising event that took place? Was, or is their a family change due to a divorce, death or move? Is there any medical condition that is or has taken place with your child or someone close to the child? If your child has some pressing medical condition, see the child medical doctor and share your concerns. Inform your child’s school counselor with information regarding a death, divorce or trauma related incident. The school counselor may provide you with information, names and referral… Continue Reading

Parents searching for helpful hints to make your shopping experience with your child an enjoyable one will find this article to be very helpful. Children can and will learn from their parents while shopping. The opportunity to learn how to make decisions, how to select the right product and how to use money wisely can all be a part of the child-parent shopping experience. Child psychology and child behavior experts discuss the importance of taking time to prepare your child for for trips outside of the home; especially trips to public places. A child’s social development depends on parenting that involves instruction on child behavioral expectations outside of the home. Below are some helpful hints and expectations to share with with your child before… Continue Reading

There has been much controversy over the question of whether spanking a child is an acceptable and appropriate parenting discipline technique. The editors of ScottCounseling encourages parents to consider this article as one positive point view that may provide some alternative solutions to spanking your child.

Author, Kathryn Kvols, claims “research confirms what many parents instinctively feel when they don’t like to spank their child, but they don’t know what else to do. The latest research from Dr. Murray Strauss at the Family Research Laboratory affirms that spanking teaches children to use acts of aggression and violence to solve their problems. It only teaches and perpetuates more violence, the very thing our society is so concerned about. This research further shows… Continue Reading

Children need set limits and rules to follow. Child behavior and child psychology experts encourage parents to sit down with their child to discuss guidelines on enforcing and setting limits. This should only be done after both parent meet and come up with a “game plan.” The hardships that come with parenting children can be reduced by parents teaming together to share ideas, support and application of proven discipline strategies. Depending on the developmental stage that you child is going through, some of the strategies for setting limits and enforcing rules may need to be modified.

• Consequences should be meaningful, a learning opportunity and appropriate for the child’s age, situation and child’s reasoning ability.
• Don’t make threats or set a consequence