Are you a smart student who often becomes the victim of a bully? This article will help you beat the bully at his or her own game. Parents searching for answers to help their intelligent child stop being the victim of bully attacks will find this article full of anti-bully tips and bully victim proof ideas. Where do the tips and ideas come from? – an actual bully in his letter to you and you child entitled:
“Dear Bully Victim”
Here’s some reason’s why I bully you:
You make yourself an easy target. I look for kids who talk too much, think they are smarter than everyone else and try hard to standout. I also look for kids her are super shy and just stand there after I tease them.
I also bully other people because I was bullied. In 4th and 5th grade I got picked on. Kids told me that I was stupid and ugly. One time when I got mad at a kid bullying me, I took his schoolbooks and other stuff and threw it all over the hallway. We both got suspended from school, but becoming a bully stopped others from teasing me.
Finally, I do not like myself. Even though others may think I am tough, I am really afraid. I’m not afraid of people, I’m afraid the people like you will find out that I am not any good at math and reading. Even though I am in the 7th grade, I can only read 3rd grade books and do 4th grade math.
Here’s some tips to help you stop me from picking on you:
Don’t spend all your time trying to be smart. I hate it when I am in your social studies class and you put down 
my ideas by telling others that I don’t have any good ideas. I also don’t like it when you answer all the questions that the teachers ask. You may be smart, but, most you make yourself a victim of us bullies when you think you have all the answers.
Become friends or at least be nice to kids who get picked on. If someone would have become my friend, or at least be nicer to me when I was younger, I might not have become a bully. In fact, you and I might have become friends.
Ask me for my advice. Oh, I might not be super nice to you because I might not feel I have any good ideas, but it’s good to know that at least someone thinks I have some brains. I might be nicer to you if you just give me a chance.
Walk away from me. Yes, sometime you are better off just ignoring my behavior. I know your parents want you to always tell them when you are getting picked on, but lighten up. Just because I gave you a funny look and sat in your lunch seat, just walk away and find another seat.
Okay, now it’s time to tell on me! When I took your stuff, hit you in the back of the head and called you a bad word…TELL AN ADULT!! You might be afraid, but really you are helping me. Don’t worry, your not a snitch; you’re actually helping me to change. You might be afraid that I will “get you” for telling on me, but most of the time, the teachers, principal or school counselors don’t give me you name. They just tell me that a teacher or another adult saw me do or say something bad to you. As long as you don’t do anything bad back to me, I probably won’t know you told on me unless your brag about it to other kids.
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My Kids a bully and I have no idea what to do. It is unacceptable to me, but I am clueless on what to do!
Hey Chelsea:
You are not the first parent to share with me that your child is a bully.
You are right! You do not and should not accept this behavior. As a school counselor, I have done several things to stop a bully from bullying:
1) Talk and listen: Get to the why. Let the child know that there is no excuse for bullying. Listen to what your child does not say. Is he going through pain from a divorce? Is the child stressed from too many activities, friends or school? Has their been a recent death. Again, none of these are good reasons to bully, but listening helps.
2) Sometime it’s appropriate (with the victim permission) to get the bully and the victim together. The victim can share how they feel. “It hurts!” let’s the bully know that he or she needs to stop.
3) Speak with the school counselor. he or she may be able to help you with your child’s unacceptable behavior.
4) Consequences:
No friends, computers, phones, TV for a week. Yes! Consequence can be affective, but do #’s 1-3 first.
Thanks for the response, I have spoken with a counsler. so we are starting that, I am getting together with the child he bullies and her mother to have them talk and hopefully that will be a start! Thanks again
i also got bullied for 4 years and i struggled but thanks to a counselor i have gotto=en most of my life back on track but i still have other problems!
can i ask a question if everyone gets bullied does that mean that everyone is a bully??